Respect

I saw this video today on the Advocate news site. I think it is a nice step forward in transgender respect. Hopefully the Department of Justice can make more impacts like this and help in training.

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Just Pee

I had a lovely smile today when I found this on the Joe My God news blog.  Leave it to Broadway to say it so well and with such humor. I hope you all enjoy it.

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Transgender Depression

Being transgender has a lot of things that go with it but some of the largest ones are dysphoria and depression.  Today I am letting others speak and share their stories.

Dysphoria and depression are never easy but there are things we can do to help. However if you can not handle things on your own please find someone to help.



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Restroom Privledge

So all over the news lately is the battle over can LGBT people use the restroom they identify with. Specifically it targets those who are transgender. The need to use a restroom is a fundamental thing all people must do. To eliminate them from public facilities is quite unfair.

So let's look at the argument against. The main thing I am hearing is the fear women and children will be hurt by people dressing up as women. Can this happen? Yes it can. The problem is I see no one fighting to limit other problems. In recent news a man forced a 9 year old into a restroom and began kissing her. A priest took pictures of children and women using a restroom.... And these happened in non integrated places.

There are dangerous people in the world. I can understand caution but I can also realize you can not hold all people accountable for the action of one or a few. As of me writing this there have not been any instances of transgender people abusing another person in a bathroom of their identity.

So we are back to is limiting transgender people the right response? No, it is not. If you are so concerned about assaults, rapes, or abductions why not stiffen penalties for those who commit them? Preventing those who do no harm form using a restroom, a basic Human need, is not right.

If we look at pictures transgender people have published you can see a woman walking into a men's restroom or vice versa to coincide with their birth identity is just foolish. You make everyone feel threatened and place people in danger of being hurt.

So now we have a situation where you claim to be protecting people but are hurting others by decree. That's not a good law or policy. That is merely fear and misunderstanding. I understand some of us out there don't know what to do and they fear what might occur. However we must learn to accept difference and extend trust. If we can not do that then fear will always be our guide and that only causes pain.

What I do see developing is reactionary movements instead of discussion and understanding. A man just in the last day dressed up in a wig and skirt and paraded in and out of a women's restroom to prove a point and he bragged about it. He claimed he was warning people of danger.

What did he accomplish? He made customers fearful for their safety, not from being preyed upon but  from a man in a costume who did not identify as female using a restroom. He did so and bragged about it nationally. Now with attention I'm sure one of two things will happen.

The real people with mental disorders will try to copy the act and some may get hurt. The other possibility is a zealot with a martyr mentality will attempt to prove a point to have validation for their cause. Both of these happen when issues of this sensitivity occur. Congratulations or creating a new problem.

Hurting some to protect others is not right or a good balance. Giving ideas to those who truly can cause harm is even worse.  Acting in fear and stirring more fear up is never right. So what are our options?

I think first we need to agree all people should be able to use the restroom. If you are transgender you should use the bathroom you identify with. Should their be tougher laws to protect those who use restrooms? Yes. By all means create new laws to protect children, women, elderly and whoever is hurt in a restroom. These are places where we are all vulnerable in.

However laws should punish the crime and protect those who can not protect themselves. They should never block those who have never done anything wrong.  And I think that is the point. Guilty until proven innocent and guilty by definition are not good laws or policies.

Think about your actions. Learn what you do not know. Hear what all sides have to say. And reach out in love and understanding to all involved. In all things be firm and fair. Allow justice to reign when there has been a crime. Be vigilant to those who truly cause harm. Trust people and give them a chance.

So whats my simple solution? Maybe the people you are trying to protect others from are those who have proven to hurt others, not those who have not. Be honest, humble, and willing to listen and learn. We are all Human. Treat all people as Humans.



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Meet My Child

I found this video on the Towleroad news blog today and found it to be a very good piece. So I'd like to share it with you all.

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Links of Love International: Gay Ireland

Today I have some new links for my international readers.


LGBT.ie  is a help and support line.

http://www.lgbt.ie/

https://twitter.com/LGBT_ie

https://www.facebook.com/LGBT.ie


Cork Gay  Community Development Company is a support organization.

http://www.gayprojectcork.com/


Transgender Equality Network Ireland 

http://www.teni.ie/

https://www.facebook.com/TransEquality

https://twitter.com/TENI_Tweets

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjxJWo1_x6VZ1MGDlXRghhg

https://instagram.com/tenipics



OutWest is a social and support group for western Ireland.

http://outwest.ie/


LINC is a Lesbian and bisexual women's support and advocacy group.

http://www.linc.ie/

https://twitter.com/LINCwomen

https://www.facebook.com/LINCcork


Outhouse is a LGBT community support center in Dublin.

http://www.outhouse.ie/

https://www.facebook.com/outhouse.ie


Outcomers is a social and support group of the LGBT community in North-east Ireland.

http://www.outcomers.org/


The Out Most is a free LGBT magazine. 

http://theoutmost.com/gcn-magazine/gcn-current-issue/current-issue/

https://twitter.com/TheOutmost

https://www.facebook.com/theoutmost?fref=ts


LGBT Noise is an advocacy group.

http://www.lgbtnoise.ie/

https://twitter.com/lgbtNOISE

https://www.youtube.com/user/lgbtnoise


Belongto is an LGBT youth support group.

http://www.belongto.org/




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It's Movie Night: Take V

Let's take a break from all the serious talk for a moment and just enjoy stories many of us can touch.


Caged is a short film about discovery that things are never what they seem and what truly matters in life.

Brace is a story that reminds us sexuality and attraction are sometimes much more than any of us know.

Happy Sharing is just a sweet short. All those cute things we do when we are in love.

Transit is one of those all to familiar stories we experience on first encounters.

Support LGBT shorts and cinema. It is the stories of our lives.



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Be You

A bit rough but it has truth. Just be you. You can be no one else.

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The Trans Dilemma

Lately I have been sad at mounting reports of trans women being murdered. They are beaten, denied basic Human services, and treated as a disease in some cases. Be it fear, hatred, the unknown whatever reason has crashed many lives.

I know many people have a difficult time understanding the extremes, if you will, that trans people go through to become who they feel they should be. Maybe part of that is our own communities fault as well for not teaching the conflicts and struggles the T in our group has to endure and figure out.

Most of us in life struggle just figuring out who we are or who we are attracted to. A person who is trans has an additional problem of being the wrong gender. Imagine everything about you is a woman. Your thoughts, attractions, desire for clothing...but you are a man in gender.

That is a struggle I wish no one had. The constant reminder of the wrong anatomy, looking into the mirror not to see you but a sculpture of someone else built around the soul that is you.  Trying to discover you and who you belong with but again your gender is not matching who you are. If we add in societies reactions it is enough to make anyone want to run and hide.

The problem is people fear and hate what they don't know. They encounter a person and see only the unknown in the minds. I know over the years I've heard many gasp at the concept of wanting to remove anatomy and add something else. They gasp because they have no basis of comparison, so they think. They see only an outcome not a process of getting there.

The first thing we should all remember is your looking at another person. They are flesh and blood like you. They love, cry, and feel just like you. They struggled to figure who they were, just like you. They think long and hard about every step they do. They are mothers, fathers, children, and loved ones.

The journey of anyone in life is a difficult trek through the unknown. It's a personal one. The one thing we all share is love. We love ourselves, others, and life. When any of those falter we become accomplices to a horrible crime. We have hurt another soul. We have caused pain, tears, or blood to be shed.

If I may suggest a pause when you meet anyone in life. Breathe and embrace the unknown. Ask about another's journey in life. Share your own. If you don't know, please ask. It does not matter if you agree with another or like their choices but it does matter how you treat a person. It matters that you show love and compassion. It matters that give them respect.

Quite simply life is love. And the greatest love you can extend is the sure knowledge everyone is different, equal, and deserving of respect. So please love everyone you meet in life because we are all Human and connected. We are expression of our souls. It's up to you whether you fill it with love or hate.



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Links of Love International XIV

Today I would like to offer some more links to my international viewers. As always I try to offer help to anyone wherever they are.  I do have language barriers and would appreciate any reviews of listed sites. I hope these are useful.

GayEcuador seems to be a links/news/entertainment site. (Ecuador)

http://www.gayecuador.com/

Diverso Ecuador is a news/links site with several resources. (Ecuador)

http://www.diversoecuador.org.ec/

Proyecto Transgenero is an advocacy group for transgender rights. They available in Spanish or English. (Ecuador)

http://www.proyecto-transgenero.org/

Sociedad de Integracion Gay Lesbica Argentina or SIGLA is an advocacy group with several links as well. (Argentina)

http://www.sigla.org.ar/

Labrys is a multi service group. They offer news, entertainment, advocacy, and many helpful links. The site is available in Russian or English. (Kyrgyzstan)

http://labrys.kg/

Justice for Gay Africans is an advocacy and news group. Their mission is equality for Africa as a whole.

http://www.jfga.org.uk/

http://www.facebook.com/JusticeforGayAfricans?sk=info

http://twitter.com/jfgas

Boys of Bangladesh is a social and support group. (Bangladesh)

http://boysofbangladesh.org/welcome/welcome.htm

Coalition of Activist Lesbians or COAL is a Lesbian advocacy group. (Australia)

http://www.coal.org.au/

Sofia Pride is an LGBT pride festival. (Bulgaria)

http://www.pridesofia.org/

http://www.facebook.com/sofiapride

http://twitter.com/#!/sofiapride

Accept LGBT is and advocacy group  The site is available in Greek, Turkish, or English. (Cyprus)

http://www.acceptcy.org/

The rainbow Alliance of the Bahamas is a blog style organization dedicated to advocacy and support. (Bahamas)

http://bahamianglad.tripod.com/



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Transgender Day of Remembrance

Too many have been hurt or lost. Today we remember those who should still be here. 

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Gay North Carolina: Transgender North Carolina

For my Trans readers I have some more links for you. Hopefully they are helpful.

Triad Gender Association is a social and support group for the larger Trans community. They have a few links and basic group information listed.

http://www.triadgender.org/

Phoenix Transgender Support is an education and support group in Asheville. Several links and resources are listed.

http://phoenixtgs.weebly.com/

Carolina Transgender Society is a education, social and support group. They include support for significant others as well. Several links and resources are available on their site.

http://www.carolinatransgendersociety.com/

North Carolina Transgender Unity is a education and support site for the Trans community. Many links to all sorts of resources and needs broken down by area. If you need information check them out.

http://nctgunity.org/



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Gay Utah: Transgender Utah

For my Trans friends I have some new listings for you. I hope they are helpful.

Transgender Education Advocates of Utah I wish I could tell you more about this group but they don't have a lot listed. You will have to do direct contact to find out more.

http://www.teaofutah.org/

The Utah Pride Center has been listed before but if you search on their groups category they have many listings for Transgender. Check them out.

http://www.utahpridecenter.org/index.php

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Utah-Pride-Center/274806413960?ref=ts

http://www.youtube.com/UtahPrideCenter

Engendered Species is a social and support group for the greater Trans community and their friends and families.

http://www.es-transgender.com/index.htm




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Gay Oregon: Transgender Oregon

Today I have some resources for the Trans community in Oregon. I hope they are helpful.

Northwest Gender Alliance is a group fostering education, support, and social events.

http://www.nwgenderalliance.org/

Trans Active offers education, support, and advocacy resources.

http://www.transactiveonline.org/index.php

Laura's Playground is an online Chatroom and Suicide prevention help center.

http://www.lauras-playground.com/chat.htm

Salem Transgender Network is an online resource and referral site.

http://www.salemtg.net/




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Sex, Gender, & Sexual Orientation

Chris is a very fun lady that found me on YouTube. After watching her videos I liked her spirit so I accepted a friend invite. One of her better videos is this one on sex, gender, and sexual orientation. I think it helps identify and demystify things. So here's Chris's breakdown. Enjoy!

Chris's channel is here.

http://www.youtube.com/user/ChristinaFoxx69



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National Groups

I have focused on state level links for a while so here are some national groups that may be able to help.

Matthew Shepard Foundation is a group dedicated to helping LGBT youth. They have many resources and ways to help. Check them out.

http://www.matthewshepard.org/

The Gay & Lesbian Victory Fund is dedicated to advocacy for the LGBT community. Their goal is to support LGBT candidates and help promote positive change. Volunteer positions are available.

http://www.victoryfund.org/home

The National Center for Lesbian Rights is an advocacy group.

http://www.nclrights.org/site/PageServer

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force is an advocacy group.

http://www.thetaskforce.org/

Lambda Legal is an advocacy group focusing on litigation.

http://www.lambdalegal.org/

National Center for Transgender Equality is an advocacy group.

http://transequality.org/




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Life Should Fit to a T

One of the few things in life we all struggle with is finding who we are and then accepting ourselves. Its not always easy or glorious. It is what it is, a journey of many roads and destinations. One surety along the way is our life needs to fit us to a T, as the old saying goes. For those who are Trans, even more so.

I can't say I understand everything that it means to be Trans but I know it has to be a constant struggle. Being stuck in a body that does not match your sexual identity can be depressing and frustrating. Even more so to those around you who care.

As one begins to be more confident in themselves and sure in who they are it can cause those around us to question themselves. This is probably more so true for the Trans community. I can see a parent, a child, a spouse questioning not only their relationship but themselves. Its not an easy thing to deal with for anyone.

Just as a Trans person struggles to find their identity the ones around them struggle to find theirs. A mother might question how she raised her child. A child might question their relationship, since they see a new person emerging. A spouse may question their own sexuality or relationship.

The reasons may be countless but the struggle is the same. A great upheaval or change is occurring in peoples lives. When you change yourself in life you change how you deal with those around you. You may not realize it but you do. Others see it even if you don't. Maybe not always consciously but they feel it.

When we make changes in life we have to remember those around us. The bigger the change in us the bigger the change in those around us. It may take time for its ripple to impact but it will hit and it will ripple back. Hopefully those in our lives can absorb change and the ripple is love and accepting.

Regardless of outcome our journey does include those around us. So if one of us falters or questions along the way maybe we should stop and take the time to reassure or help them as best we can. If people matter to us then our struggle is their struggle and that is our relationship.

I don't want to say this is a magic answer for things but it is an important step if we want to try and keep special people in our lives. It may not work and the issues may be ultimately to large or personal for someone to accept. Not everyone is strong enough to accept core change in themselves or those around them. But we should know if we change who we are, we change our relationship with those around us.

We may be the same person to ourselves but simply expressing it more outward. The problem is our view of change and that of those around us is usually far different. What may be simple or logical to one may be unfathomable to another.

I wish I had a magic answer but there isn't one. People are people and they have to adjust. Some will bounce back freely and others will never absorb the hit of change. That is true of any relationship in life. But I do believe if we truly try and extend patience and love to those who matter to us we can at least maintain a level of connection if not make it stronger.

With all that I have said one must be ones self. Our journey in life may need camp sites to allow those around us to rest but it it should not stop the journey. Because life should fit you to a T.



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Links of Love International: Gay Asia

Today I have some links for my international viewers. Some of these may be duplicates of ones I have posted in the past. Hopefully not to many. I do have language barriers with many of these sites so please do self verification on them.

Buddy is a LGBT Magazine. (Korea)

http://buddy79.com/

Chingusai is a Gay men's organization. (Korea)

http://chingusai.net/

Korean Queer Culture Festival is a social event with many activities and resources. The site is available in English and Korean. Chinese is also available beyond the main page. (Korea)

http://www.kqcf.org/

Korean Sexual-Minority Culture & Rights Center  (Korea)

http://kscrc.org/

Lesbian Radio  (Korea)

http://cafe.daum.net/lezpa

Rainbow Teen (RATEEN) is a youth focused group. (Korea)

http://cafe.daum.net/Rateen

Taiwan Pride is a social and support festival with many activities and resources. (Taiwan)

http://twpride.net/

Smile for Gay  (China)

http://www.smile4gay.org/cn/

Civil Rights for Sexual Diversities is a advocacy and support group in Hong Kong. The site is in English and Chinese. (China)

http://neptune.lunarpages.com/~active2/cr4sd/production/eng/main/index.html

Transgender Equality and Acceptance Movement (TEAM) is an advocacy and support group in Hong Kong The site is in English and Chinese(China)

http://www.teamhk.org/

Chi Heng Foundation is a AIDS advocacy and support organization. (China)

http://www.chihengfoundation.com/index_en.html

Blue Diamond Society is a advocacy and support organization. (Nepal)

http://bds.org.np/

Cambodian Center for Human Rights is not LGBT specific. It is however a source. (Cambodia)

http://www.cchrcambodia.org/

http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Cambodian-Center-for-Human-Rights-CCHR/206984670430?ref=ts

http://twitter.com/#!/cchrcambodia

http://www.youtube.com/user/cchrcambodia

Gaya Nusantara is an advocacy, support, and educational organization. (Indonesia)

http://www.gayanusantara.or.id/

Aus Prelangi is an advocacy, support, and educational organization. (Indonesia)

http://aruspelangi.pbworks.com/w/page/9723216/FrontPage

Pink Triangle Foundation is a multifaceted group. They cover advocacy, education, health, support and much more. (Malaysia)

http://www.ptfmalaysia.org/index.php

http://www.facebook.com/pages/PT-Foundation/345959786892?ref=ts

http://twitter.com/#!/PTfoundation

http://www.ptfoundation.blogspot.com/

Pink Dot is a pride festival with many activities and resources. (Singapore)

http://pinkdot.sg/

http://www.youtube.com/user/pinkdotsg

The University of the Philippines has Babaylan. It is a support, education, and advocacy group. (Philippines)

http://upbabaylan.blogspot.com/

http://www.facebook.com/upbabaylan

http://twitter.com/#!/upbabaylan




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Faith: Islam

In my continuing efforts to find LGBT friendly views and places of faith I take today to add some sources for Islam. Some of these may not be specifically faith based but they may be able to help direct you to proper sources. As with all links I can not verify more than what I see so always proceed with caution.

Salaam represents the Queer Muslim community of Toronto, Canada. (Canada)

http://www.salaamcanada.org/intro.html

Helem supports the LGBT community of Lebanon. (Lebanon)

http://www.helem.net/

MEEM supports Lesbian, Bisexual, Queer and questioning women and Transgender persons in Lebanon. (Lebanon)

http://meemgroup.org/news/

PT Foundation supports the LGBT community of Malaysia. (Malaysia)

http://www.ptfmalaysia.org/index.php

Al-Qaws supports the LGBT community of Palestine.

http://www.alqaws.org/q/

The Inner Circle supports LGBT Muslims in South Africa. (South Africa)

http://www.theinnercircle.org.za/

Imaan supports the LGBTQI community of the United Kingdom. (United Kingdom)

http://www.imaan.org.uk/

Al-Fatiha is LGBT friendly and serves the United States.

http://www.al-fatiha.org/



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A View Into Being Trans

Today I have a guest post by a Blogger I really like. Biki shares the journey of being Trans and all the ups and downs that self discovery and life presents. Biki's blog The Great Wide Open is very heartfelt and open. Share the Journey yourself.

http://unscheduledscenicroutes.blogspot.com/

Now A View Into Being Trans by my friend Biki.

Describing what it means to be trans is tricky endeavor indeed.  Why is it so hard to explain what it's like, how it feels to be trans?  Well, tis a different experience for each of us, but what it really boils down to is that it's almost like trying to explain the color blue to someone that is blind.  Cisgender people, (someone whose gender identity matches their anatomical gender at birth) haven't ever felt the separation of their mental and physical selves.  And that's why trans people fall back on a few cliché statements; in the wrong body, never felt right when I looked in the mirror, always felt there was something different about me, I never felt like I fit in with people of my sex, etc.  While those are true as to how we do feel, it's only the tip of the iceberg. 

How best to describe it…. I feel like a stranger from a distant planet.  My childhood was filled with adults telling me that "girls" don't: sit that way, stand that way, be loud, jump around, etc, etc, etc.  I never could trust my natural instincts on how to be me.  And so I learned to watch and emulate a foreign species, women to attempt to fit in.  While I can blend in, I don't fit in at all well.  In the world of women, I'm a foreigner who is confused as to the subtext as to what is really being said.  I can't trust my instincts as to how to act, I don't mesh well with people of my sex; I live life feeling slightly off kilter.

There is a wide variant as to how strongly the disconnect between the physical self and the gender self is among transgender people.  For most trans, life is livable wearing a sex that doesn't match our gender.   For other trans, life inside the wrong sex is a constant soul pain, and has been so their entire lives.  The only way to cure the pain is opposite sex hormones and surgery.  Something I would do in a flash, except I can't perceive my life without my adorable husband, who isn't comfortable with the thought of being married to a guy, and I totally understand his feelings.

While I would be more comfortable living within the skin of a male, instead of just the mind of one, there is yet another piece of the trans puzzle.  To never be seen as to who one actually is.  Forever and ever, I'll only be seen as a woman, never the man I actually am.  Living an invisible life slowly corrodes who you are into a blurry reflection of both and yet neither.

As a child I fully knew that I was a boy, without any doubt.  Gift giving occasions were usually a let down for me as I asked for traditionally male playthings, cars, trucks, trains, race tracks, etc.  Yes, I had Barbies, and baby dolls, and yes I played with them, males do have a nurturing side if they are allowed to express it.  Then came puberty and all the physical changes that occur, without a doubt the worst time in my life ever.  With puberty comes the end of magical thinking, and I finally stopped believing I would wake up one day to find that I was a boy for real.  With the end of that belief was a vast wasteland of what next?  How to be a girl?

Many of us go the extreme opposite of what we feel to be, attempting to feel whole by being extremely feminine, or taking masculinity to the extreme.  Many M2F's have served in the armed forces, the Marines and Army seem to be the favorites.  Several F2M's have tried breast implants, overly feminine clothing trying to feel more feminine, less fractured.  Me?  I couldn't do the overly feminine thing, I haunted the line between the two sexes.  Dressing my female body in male clothing, with long hair and sometimes make-up.  Or wearing some articles of each sexes clothing together.  So, canvas high tops and a skirt with a boys long sleeved t-shirt, and people looked at me like a freak.  Yes, there were times I dressed "normally", in full on female attire, and it's always felt like a costume.  And as I age, the feeling of being in costume has gotten stronger to the point where last year I ditched all my girl clothing.

Trans people are straight, bi, and gay in around the same numbers as are cisgender people.  Within the trans community ones sexuality isn't really a big issue.  What is a huge issue is the ability to "pass" well.  Those that pass well, really look down upon those of us that don't pass well.  The transwomen strive to be ultra feminine, the transmen desire to be as masculine as possible.  If one is a femme transman, he will be looked down on and at the least ignored, at the most, hated.  A "butchy" transwoman?  Holy cats and ants you wouldn't believe the hate she will have to endure.  The trans community adheres so strongly to the cookie cutter gender roles our society cranks out, step outside of those roles with dress or actions and be prepared to be hated on.  As for where I fall?  More of a femme kinda guy.  Living all of these years in "girl world" has taken it's toll on how masculine I could have grown up to be. 

When I went to the transgender conference in Boston, I gathered me some misunderstanding and some disbelief of my status of trans.  Why?  Because they could only see one way to be a transman, to be a F2M, and I didn't fit into it at all.  Like all oppressed minorities we have taken the rules of normalcy to an extreme degree, and use them against our own community members.  What bothered them about me?  I don't bind my breasts down, its vastly uncomfortable and it has the backlash of making me think more about my breasts than I normally ever do.  I wear earrings, even though I wore male ones, they only saw earrings.  I had painted my nails black for the decade dance, I went as a metal rocker.  I don't know of any metal rocker worth his high who doesn't have black nails.  But because I forgot the nail polish remover, that was a mark against me as well.  However I did meet one awesome F2M who has told me that he uses my life and how I live it as an example for others that there isn't one correct way of being trans.

By breaking the silence and refusing to stay hidden another minute, gays and lesbians and bi's have forced our society to exam what is considered "normal" sexual behavior.  Transgender people force the examination of what is considered "normal" in the realms of gender and sex.  Gender roles, pigeon holing of what behavior is acceptable out of each sex, and even more scary for the blinkered straights is the fact that there is more than one way to be male, female one; can be a multihued blend of both.   In my viewpoint, if allowed to grow naturally from puberty only a very few people would think of themselves as fully straight, or gay, most of us would fall somewhere within the city limits of bi-ville.  And I think the same thing about gender.  If we didn't so rigidly adhere to the fallacy that everyone is whole cloth only one gender, we would see an easing of our stupid roles and scripts as to what it means to be male or female. 



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