Thursday, March 26, 2015

When Hate is Shrouded in Religious Authority

Today I now live in a state that has enshrined the ability to discriminate solely upon peoples beliefs. So the inquisition begins....

Any LGBT person here in Indiana can now be denied a job, a home, the ability to shop for food, and even medical care by anyone claiming its against their religious beliefs. In spite of popular disapproval of the people, business, and even some religious groups it has been signed into law.

As expected business is already pulling out of the state. I imagine as it begins to be execute so will a migration of people. Certainly I can assure all those who are not LGBT you should beware also. If you are atheist, a member of a different religion, or even a different race be very aware its is a short leap till they persecute you.

Will we see the return of the school of thought that black people bear the mark of Cain? And as such can be denied service due to religious belief? Will Jewish people denied service if they do not accept Christ? Will Muslims be expelled as heathens? Will hospitals turn out those in need because a person conflicts with their beliefs?

Any law that denies existence to any people simply for existing is wrong. It is one thing to hold differing beliefs and be protected to hold those beliefs. It is another to hurt people. Life is not a game and people are not things to be cast aside as rubbish. You would think the world ha learned its lessons about the first steps into darkness.

To Nelson Mandela the barbed wire now cuts us to. To Ann Frank I fear some of us may have to hide as well. To all the oppressed I sing your tune.



Love is never Wrong!


Sunday, March 15, 2015

The Conflict Within

Today I would like to talk about the conflict within. Everyone who is LGBT will know exactly what I'm talking of. The conflict that threatens our happiness, well being, and even life. It is the shadow that stalks our lives if we allow it.

Being who we are we face so much pressure to be who we are not. Family, friends, work, church... all try to tell us who we are and how to be. It is an assault on the spirit, a war if you will.  Pressures from outside attempting to shape us to their desire.

This struggle is one of the greatest we all face. It is never easy and not everyone deals with it, or deals with it very well. When we are young we have not found our self. So we either break free or we wait. When we have become adults new pressures can delay things even longer. As we get older we add the shackles of all the life we have lived before.

Most of us do not like conflict. We only want to be free. And that is the struggle. When ever it comes to the issue of us, we are its master. Regardless of anything outside we choose our path. Sometimes that means we walk in sunshine and others stormy skies with brambles slicing our legs along the way.

There is no one clear answer to the conflict within but we can ask ourselves questions to help us decide where we go and what we do.

Can I live my life bowing to the desires of others even though it will cause me heartache and pain?

Am I being selfish wanting to be me or are others being so by not accepting who I am?

What do I hope for if I change?

What will I do if I change?

And most importantly will I love me as I am with whatever choice I make?

There may be many more things to ask but these are fairly important. It is important to know who you are and what you want. From there you have to decide what makes me happy and will my choices make me happy. If we don't do this and just languish in the howling wind of indecision we begin to rot.

Our soul does not like stagnation it takes us to dark places. And for wondrous beings who deserve to shine the darkness is not our friend. So I leave you with one final question.

What do you want? Forget the outside when answering this because you must know you before contending with anything or anyone else. Whatever your path or choice it must be entirely you. You can not be a whole person otherwise. And when you have decided love! Love yourself, your life, and those around you regardless of what the outside says or thinks.



Love is Never Wrong

Saturday, March 14, 2015

A Lesbian Point of View

Considering yesterday's post was about negative speech towards Lesbians I thought would all could use a different perspective. So today we have some Lesbian YouTube channels. From informative to racy and real examples of love you should find something of interest. It's an L day!

Girl Friends TV

https://www.youtube.com/user/GirlfriendsTV

Our Lesbian Love

https://www.youtube.com/user/OurLesbianLove

The Gay Women Channel

https://www.youtube.com/user/UnsolicitedProject/featured

Stevie and Sarah

https://www.youtube.com/user/StevieBoebi/featured

Arielle Scarcella

https://www.youtube.com/user/ArielleIsHamming/featured

BxgTV

https://www.youtube.com/user/BxgTV/featured

TwoBabyMamas

https://www.youtube.com/user/TwoBabyMamas




Love is Never Wrong

Friday, March 13, 2015

How "Dyke Soup" woke me up!

I've not posted in quite some time. My health and real life seem to sap most of my desire and energy. I guess it's easy to let some things go. Links of Love is one of those projects I never really expect much contact with people but hope they can find helpful sources to lift their lives.

Till now I've been content to just leave the links and thoughts from me up to continue to help those in need. That was till yesterday. When you don't feel well and you have lots of time you begin to look for things to distract you and hopefully make you smile. For me one of mine is watching YouTube content.

One I watch is a collaboration of several large YouTube personalities. They stream on Twitch daily and for the most part are entertaining. Well yesterday they are nearing the end of one of their live streams and one of the characters in this series asks what a certain fluid is. One replies sewage and quickly another, who is their server admin, adds "Dyke Soup".

You know I've heard a lot of hateful things in life and seen many bigots and hatemongers. But here in a gaming series produced by young twenty-somethings one of them decided to equate being lesbian to eating feces. The old label your dirty, nasty, and disgusting reared it's ugly head.

I stopped watching that instant. Instantly I was sad. How many young women who may be struggling with their sexuality were watching? The group has millions of subscribers in total. How many just had to hear "Dyke Soup." How many were already depressed or in bad places already and hoping a simple game series would distract them? How many?

I began this blog to try and help our youth and really anyone who needed help or support and here several years on I'm still worried what will set off more youth to step over the brink. It's sometimes hard enough being a teen with normal issues let alone being LGBT.

My sadness turned to anger as the day went on. Anger at someone so insensitive as to harm young viewers. You know I can handle bigots saying what they want to an adult but children and teens? No!!! It is absolutely shameful.

To degrade a person for their very being is vile. This is not like normal bullying. People with glasses can in most cases get contacts or vision correction. The overweight can lose weight. Being a geek can be fashionable. No this was an assault on the very being of anyone being lesbian.

With so many breakthroughs recently we still face threats to our youth. My anger turned to myself. I had not been helping lately. Then sadness returned. It really has been an emotional day.

So here I am! My job is not finished. So my lesson for today is surprisingly a cooking recipe.

Dyke Soup

2  Wonderful Lesbians  :)

1  Part Mutual Attraction

2  Whole parts of Love

Mix well and let simmer. Serves 2 with much happiness.



Love is Never Wrong

Sunday, August 3, 2014

Learning to Grieve

Today I would like to talk about something many of us don't want to discuss. I want to talk about grief and learning to deal with it. Grief is a very powerful emotion and ravages us so at times. Yet regardless of LGBT or not few are ever taught how to deal with it. Yet being LGBT we seem to deal with it so much more.

Being LGBT we grieve so much but rarely see how much it affects us. We focus on the symptoms but not so much how it affects us or how we deal with it. We grieve having to hide our self, having to lie to family and friends. We grieve not being able to explore relationships as others would for fear of being hurt or persecuted. We grieve being denied the fundamental right other citizens possess. We even grieve being dismissed.

So many things in life shape and mold us. So many seemingly minor actions by others slowly chip away at us and we tend to ignore or suppress them. We don't want to deal with them for many reasons. Will we be rejected, will I lose my family or friends, will I lose my home or my life? All are valid fears.

Each is a loss. A loss of freedom, love, and life. Yet we rarely think of them as such. They are great trials of ones soul and can ravage the soul if left unchecked. But we should not fear confronting our losses. We should not fear learning to incorporate our lives, good or bad, into the fabric of who we are.

We should mourn each oppression, pain, and hurt. Don't keep it bottled up. You have to let it out or you are only creating an explosive that will rip through your life. And it will be far more destructive than the feelings you wish to avoid. It's not easy. I won't pretend to tell you it is.

Releasing that which strikes us can be a gut wrenching experience. Let those tears flow, that anger out, even tend those bruises. They are not your burdens. As much as people always try to bring the focus of pain upon you it is rarely your fault.

You did not make a law that excludes you from equality. You did not create the intolerance that made you hide who you are. You did not throw the fist that blackened your eye. You did not create you.

Existence is not an excuse to create pain or make people hate. Know that! Know also that love is not a crime. Release those emotions that weigh your down like chains oh so heavy. Release that guilt that people like to place. Release that anger for being different. Simply let it go.

Letting go of what others seek to place upon you is its own liberation. When they can not control you through fear, pain, or oppression they become the ones less relevant.

I know dealing with that which you don't want to is hard. But if we can not let go we are doomed to live in the world others have created for us. And you what? It's our life. We should be able to be masters of it. I'm not saying it won't hurt or we wont struggle to rise above. I'm saying we must move on. We must live and place that which ravages us in perspective.

All things in life can teach us something. Grieving is a powerful one. It teaches us loss, recovery, vision, and even love. Please don't fear grief. Embrace it and give it time. You will move on and things will get better. For you may learn some of the greatest secrets of all... Love and forgiveness.

Rise above! Know what and who has dealt you pain and be better for it. Resolve to live and live with grace. Realize pain can not hurt love. And know love heals anything pain can inflict.

Grieve! Embrace your life and let it flow forth. Love yourself and forgive those that which hurt. Know the most powerful person in your life is you. And when you do, you will know grief is merely the temporary pause for us to reflect and learn. And in time you may no longer be grieving for you but for those who hurt you.



Love is Never Wrong


Friday, August 1, 2014

Extremism

Being LGBT we know a lot about extremism. Many of us have felt its pain or we have shed our blood to it. Still it is an entity that we still struggle with. Extremists are usually not bad people but they are people who allow fear, the unknown, and change to whip them up into a frenzy that leads them to make bad choices and create pain.

One of the greatest dilemmas we have is how to deal with those in the in the throws of this frenzy? The answer is simple but the act is not. Time, patience, and vigilant education are what change peoples minds. I know this seems a tired explanation but we must realize this is not a battle or a war. This is a struggle for liberty, freedom, and love.

The people who march under the banner of extremism did not get so overnight. Usually they are people of principle or values that have seen the erosion of teachings they have known their whole lives. Things their families, their church, or even community leaders have bestowed in them. Slowly the fabric of what they hold dear has begun to unravel and at a certain point they say no more and they take up a battle to preserve what they have left or dream of days when things were better. This is the struggle of traditionalism and liberalism. 

It is not wrong to hold on to values and traditions if they are positive and do not hurt others. There are many wonderful things to preserve but there are also many that should be changed. By all means say please and thank you, open doors for others, volunteer your time, be good to your family and friends, and lift people up in life.

Our first steps in dealing with extremism must be life, love, and respect. We are dealing with other Human beings and if we can not extend to them what we seek we have no ground for which to stand. It wont be an easy task to undo that which may have persisted a very long time. We must do so peacefully as I already mentioned its a struggle not a war.

Each connection you make in life show another who you are. It changes a view in someone of what they think something is. When it becomes tangible and personal it is no longer a threat. They may not understand and they may not agree with you but it is a step that removes a stone from their eyes and hearts.

Only in love and mutual respect can we then begin to converse and find out that each other are really not so different. We might even be surprised that we share many similar views. And in that we can return our attention to the traditions that are worth saving and do not hurt others.

I know this all sounds so easy but it is not. It takes time. We must give it time. To much to fast and we leave those who struggle with things with their heads reeling and feeling disoriented. You can disenfranchise their voices. And that is not what we want. Equality can only begin in respect and openness.

In some places those who lead the struggle may fall. It is then another needs to rise and take their place. Pick up the banner of equality and carry on. If another falls pick up the banner and carry on. It is a not a war but it is a struggle. In that, our will can burst from our hearts and we can shape the world.

Love, honor, respect, and most of all live. Be the whisper of all those wonderful values and traditions and watch the wind of our voices blow the storm clouds away so we all may dance under the rainbow and live in peace.



Love is Never Wrong

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Charity Begins at Home V

Today I have some more suggestions on how we all can contribute to better helping those in our community who may be in need. As always we all can do something to help someone, somewhere. It only takes the kindness of one to set in motion good things for others.

One of the greatest issues facing society today regardless of LGBT or not is hunger. People need to eat and they need to eat healthily. From homeless youth to the sick, and elderly we have many mouths to feed. Obviously there are the traditional sources but they are overwhelmed.

We should begin using our existing community centers as food pantries. Support is essential but so is health and well being of our community. Many more people can usually give food than money. And in the end it all adds up.

Another option for local communities are food co ops. Pool together your buying power to create purchasing options that will be cheaper for all involved. The more money we can free up the more it helps us and gives us the ability to help others.

The next issue is housing for so many of us. Some larger communities have dedicated LGBT housing but its few and far between. Our biggest need is to help the young, the elderly, and those whose health is faltering. Allocating special funding from traditional programs is unlikely in most areas. However we do have options.

Those of us who have spare homes or rental properties can create affordable options to those with lower incomes. Maybe we can advocate our existing centers create overnight sleeping areas so people at least have a safe place to sleep.

We can also take a lesson from many college communities. Create co op housing. Giving people a home from which to safely stay, an address for which to look for work, and others that can understand and support them is a great goal. They learn community, working together, and even sharing expenses.

One thing we can all can do is offer some form of labor. Maybe we should organize time banks, and work programs for those that need it. Many of us have things we need done and we spend money on them.  Whether it be our lawn being mowed, a car washed, a house painted, or even an artist to create things for business or enjoyment. Whatever the skill someone out there can fulfill that.

If we trade services or work with our centers to create job postings or time banks we create work and ways for people to get things for their efforts. Pride in achievement is so important and can lift us up. Sometimes we have to look beyond traditional methods and create new ones.

As I began today it only takes kindness and a bit of effort to set things in motion. Our goal should be to lift all that we can up in life. Give them pride, meaning, health, life, and most especially love. If we can not do that then our efforts fall short. And when you fall short with Humanity we all lose someone.

All efforts help from the smallest to the largest. Please do what you can where you can.



Love is Never Wrong!