Thursday, September 22, 2016

The Cost

Today I would like to talk about the cost of all things.  To many times we see people charge ahead without regard to cost. They rush in with ideas, designs, and goals. They only seek the end ignoring the cost to get there.

Imagine a teacher who drives their students to succeed, always pushing. Students burn out, lose control, and desire. Some may even commit suicide. Is success worth those we lose?

Think about a politician who may rightly point out faults but charges ahead toward their goal ignoring dissent and forcing their will upon others. People get hurt, lost, or die. Is the goal more important than Human life?

Contemplate a research Dr. They seek a cure to a nasty disease but they cut corners testing on Humans and combine things that were never meant to be. Is mutation, disregard of will, and death worthwhile?

All of these examples and many more have a common thread. That would be ignoring the cost to achieve your goal. There are many people in life who believe the end justifies the means to get there.
This is not true.

The path to whatever your destination matters on how you get there. It matters that you stop and take in all that you are doing at every step. It matters to observe the concerns and objections of others. We all share this world and as such we each matter and we each have a voice in how it is ruled and used. 

Some may say this is a revolutionary thought. I however say it is not. It is respect of the cost. When we talk about Human life it is always more valuable than a goal or idea. When we barter Human life, welfare, and happiness for a destination we have already failed.  We have already paid to high a price.

The cost, whatever progress, teaching, desire, or goal is never worth more than a Human life. When you disregard or play with such then you are little more than a monster. You have already written off Human life and as such that makes you inhuman.

I know all to well some will debate this till they are blue in the face but I dare you to sit and live each of those lives you wreck, tear apart, or kill. Maybe you would see just how your progress impacts people.

With this we come to personal sacrifice. This one is more tricky. However the cost must still be weighed but the one thing that separates it is that it's the choice of one, over themselves. It may impact others but it is their determination.

All this being said there are many things in life worth the cost of a goal. However those things usually take into account the welfare of all involved. Disregard that and you will find your ledgers in the red.

Never barter, trade, use, or even disregard Human life and welfare. The cost is to precious. Even considering it treads upon a darkness that is catastrophic. You can justify whatever you want in your own mind but let's be honest anything beyond you is us, all of us.

I hope and pray you all consider the cost of things in your life. Realize the value of what have and seek. Some things you can never replace. People can not be replaced. New ones may appear but there is always a hole with those we lose.

Be frugal with your goal and life. Know when to invest and when to withdraw. Sometimes the price is to high. Barter and trade in love for it only grows and returns dividends that are priceless. Realize wealth is vested in the welfare of all.

Pay in love! Progress in love! Celebrate in love!

Love is Never Wrong!

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Always Question!

Sometimes we forget we must always explore and vet events and people around us. Just as terrorism seems more prevalent now days maybe we should question it. What would history teach us on that?

Always question! If you do not you will never see anything except what some may want you to see. Sometimes it may just be the surface event others much deeper.  Either way be sure for the road to darkness is built on ignorance and fear. I think the world has enough of that. Let's love a bit more.

Love is Never Wrong!

Thursday, September 8, 2016

Being You

Today I would like to talk about being you. I know so many people have different perspectives on it and even you may not know who you are yet. It's ok because you are an ever changing rose. Your bloom may change colors or shades depending on the day, weather, and nutrients you take in. What matters most however is you.

I'm not going to sit here and tell you who you are or how to get to being who you want to be. Each of our journey's is our own. We have been given so many tools to grow and blossom. But there is one truth. You and and you alone must be you. No one and I mean no one has a right to define you.

Now this is where society and family tends to go wrong. There is a fine line between help, instruction, care, and faith. At some point you begin to oppress and hurt in your efforts. Maybe your goal is well intentioned, maybe not.

It's very difficult for people to not want to mold the world to their thoughts and beliefs. By proxy they sometimes go beyond the physical into the realm of the living. Our lives! Being LGBT I don't think I can relay just how much this is true. I think some people would be utterly shocked just how much this impacts our lives.

The Human trait to ignore what does not apply to them can be strong. People may not see the insults, denials of existence, safety, and even legitimacy of life. Would some be surprised that Lesbians are raped in some places because "they just need a man to correct them?"  Would people be surprised at the hateful jokes, words, insults... you can hear in one day, all aimed at your existence?

Society....people...families need to understand everyone deserves the right to be themselves. Just because something is not your belief or way does not mean it is not valid. I know many get caught up in tradition and faith when it comes to our community but you need to understand an important fact.

We are here. We have always been here. Think about that. Your tradition is based on history. Look and you will find us there staring back at you. Your faith is based on belief. Observe us, we worship just as you.  We create families and have children. We are in every profession and every city. We are your friends, neighbors, teachers, leaders... We are!

There is no greater crime than to deny a person the right to be themselves. There is no greater crime than to deny yourself. It always begins with a lie. I recently talked about truth maybe you should scan down and view that before going further.

Lies are all around us. Sometimes we wrap ourselves in them. However, even that is a lie. We may not be able to control the actions of others but we can control ourselves. So let us begin by telling our self the truth, our truth.

When you have begun to tell yourself the truth then and only then can you focus on being you. I can't tell you who that may be but I'm sure your flower will be a sight of beauty. I can't tell you others won't hurt you but I can tell you, telling your truth stops you from hurting you.

Be you. Be happy you are you. If you have to completely switch genders, uproot your lives, or even abandoned those closest to you then be you. Truth is the beginning, acceptance is the struggle, and love is the conclusion. Just like the rose you will grow and blossom and like it's thorns your vigilance will deter those who wish to pluck your brilliance.

Being you is a journey of love. It is a lot of work and you must navigate the thorns but the sight is precious. If I have lost  you then let me say this. Let the truth be your fertilizer.

To borrow a line from a song:

"Just remember in the winter
far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed that with the sun's love,
In the spring becomes the rose"

Love is Never Wrong!

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

The Greatest

Not long ago one strand decided to rip out forty-nine others in a horrific way.  We were left with holes and strains on many others. Human spirit and potential was lost. The artist, Sia, decided to honor the fallen. Let us all remember what we lost and to ensure it never occurs again.

Love is Never Wrong!

Thursday, August 25, 2016


I saw this video today on the Advocate news site. I think it is a nice step forward in transgender respect. Hopefully the Department of Justice can make more impacts like this and help in training.

Love is Never Wrong!

Wednesday, August 10, 2016


You know I am really tired of political machinations. It does not matter which side you look at you will find lies, deceptions, and all out greed and selfishness is running rampant. Unlike others I won't tell you who to choose but I will tell you who not to choose.

If anyone has outright lied and been caught doing so then don't support them.

If anyone calls for anyone's harm, at any time, then don't support them.

If anyone in their life has manipulated the system for their own benefit then don't support them.

If anyone refers to the good old days instead of seeing the potential of now and the future then don't support them.

If anyone supports taking away your rights or has participated in doing such then don't support them.

If anyone is part of a political dynasty then don't support them.

If you don't like either side then don't vote for either side. Demand and get better!

Most importantly vote and do the right thing. You are the last barrier between freedom and the darkness. The power is and always has been yours. You just have to realize it. You have to seize it back.

So to all those politicians who fit any of those above keep walking, thank you for your time, and go quietly unto the files of history. It is time the people, all of the people, get their due.

Love is Never Wrong!

Sunday, August 7, 2016


So much lately I hear about crime. I hear about such horrible things people have done. Then I hear the manufactured crimes against LGBT people. Who am I to avoid a a discussion on society? So let us compare lists.

All things must have a beginning.  To the family member who raped and abused me for more than a decade I charge you with child rape, abuse, and cruelty. I will never get my childhood or innocence back. Your crimes will forever haunt me to some degree.

To the hospital I called distraught and on the verge of slicing open my wrists due to what was happening to me, and you ignored me. You never even returned my call or sent a police officer to check on me. A teenager so hurt and wounded they reached out in distress and you did nothing. I charge you with criminal neglect.

To the various clergy in my life who repeatedly informed me I was going to Hell and told me so many nasty things of what I was, simply for existing, I charge you with mental torture. Who are you to proclaim and enforce God's will. Maybe you should read those texts you like to quote again. I certainly read them looking for answers. After all it is how I found God and he saved that deeply wounded teenager.

To every friend I told about my abuse one by one.... Not a one of you asked if I was ok or was there anything you could do to help. Not a one! Yours may not be a legal crime but it is certainly a crime against the heart. I was and have been there for each and every one of you. I wish you had been there for me.

To the men who expressed such hate and violence to make me hide myself as best I could, I charge you with crime against Humanity. I remember those who were beaten, the young man found dead in a ditch, the threats... I also charge you with criminal negligence for making a child grow up like that.

To the leaders of our world who so eloquently pass their laws that so casually dismiss my existence and criminalize my life I to charge you with crimes against Humanity.  And as a result of the things you stir up with such I charge you with assault, rape, murder...

To all the people who know better and do nothing to make such things stop I charge you with aiding and abetting a crime/criminal. I exist, and such I have a right to life just as much as anyone else.

You know this list could go on so much longer. Just my charges alone could keep lawyers busy for a very long time. Now add to it the list of every LGBT person, every minority, every victim. Society has failed. Only you can right it.

In all honesty I don't expect any of these charges to be judged or even pursued but I do expect justice. Each and every one of you on this list and those I didn't list owe your due. Whether it be penance, admitting your errors, or even just allowing me to live my life in peace I expect justice.

I don't want revenge and I don't want to force my will upon any of you. I of all people know the denial of ones free will. I of all people know the true abomination in this world. I don't want to preach and I don't want special rights. I want to live equally and freely, free from interference and meddling.

Maybe if good men who hold their ideals and values so high would come forward and practice what you teach maybe life can once again flourish.

To all those people of God who will surely respond to me with some scripture or another... I believe and follow God. I have thought about this one a lot. Have you ever considered we who are different are the witness' of your world? Do you truly follow his word?

Think about that one. You clearly state God has a will and all things are intentional. That means we have a role, it means we are part of God's plan. It means we have a path to the divine.

I am sorry if my words anger or rile some of you up. Those of you on my list may even contest my statements but they are from my heart and soul. They are as true as I can express. As hard as they may be to hear, think about how hard they were to experience.

Most of my life has been hurting, running, and hiding from one of you or others. No more! I am owed debts so great, by some, that can never be repayed. I don't want any of you hurt. There has been enough of that.

So now I have compared a small part of my crime list do we need to continue this discussion or can we finally talk about justice and finding solutions? I am here, I live, I feel, I express, and I hurt. Help me stop the crimes. No one should hurt.

We should love!

Love is Never Wrong