Sunday, March 23, 2014

To Feed the Soul

Today I would like to talk about a special topic in our community. I would like to discuss social isolation of many LGBT people.

Not everyone in life has a lot of resources, are widely connected to the Internet or social media, or even know where to begin. Many more so may be dealing with issues they have had for years and simply don't know how to begin to solve their problems or get help. Worse yet many still live in places where they fear to get help.

When you are alone you battle so many things, most commonly depression. But if we expand that we include loneliness, despair, even inadequate care. Everyone needs someone!

To many times people who are isolated live in fear or pain. For them the meer act of reaching out is is a monumental journey. When they do reach out they are brutally rejected or discarded. It may be because of hate, intolerance or even lack of patience.

A person in isolation, let alone being LGBT, is in what I call survival mode. They are people who need exceptional time and patience. They need to learn trust, openness, compassion, even love. They need to learn not to fear.

It is so easy to dismiss people stuck in a cycle as not wanting to get help or deceiving themselves to be victims. Sometimes it scares or shocks us the state that some people are in. Life is not always kind. So many get left behind or ignored.

The few who do reach out so clumsily can easily feel stung and reviled by those they seek help from. Maybe its social awkwardness, maybe its years of pain or hurt, worse yet maybe its lack of love.

I think we as a community need to reach out unconditionally to everyone. We need to learn patience and compassion. It's so easy in an electronic world to not build attachments. But regardless you are still dealing with another Human.

I don't think we must carry an entire burden alone in such situations but we must carry one of connecting them to someone. As I mentioned before Everyone needs someone. It is not enough for us to just live. We must feed our souls and touch another. For we are a union of souls.

I've talked about the meaning of the rainbow in our community before so I mention it now. Take those principles and use them. Let that rainbow be the bridge for someone somewhere to find out they are not alone and that someone cares.

So allow me to leave you with two very relevant quotes.

"Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead."

-  Oscar Wilde

"Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do... but how much love we put into that action."

-  Mother Theresa

Love is Never Wrong

Thursday, January 30, 2014

It's Raining the UK!

I love a good hearted story with humor. What an eloquent statement of telling someone they are wrong.

Congratulations and a thank you to the people of the UK!

Love is Never Wrong

Sunday, January 26, 2014

A Vision of Faith

You know I normally don't voice my views on faith because I believe it is unique to each and every soul. We each have to choose our paths in life. We are all wonderful creations blessed with free will and a soul for which to act as an anvil of our dreams.

So much lately I have seen people twist and malign the path of faith to an end that is malevolent and soul draining. Today I am only speaking from a Christian point of view. My point of view. My Vision!

Before we begin maybe you should read my earlier post:

The path of faith is the path of love I'm not saying we won't get angry, we won't stumble, we won't lash out. I am saying it is how one chooses to progress in life. Will you be humble, penitent, even forgiving? So many seem to get confused on salvation, redemption, and faith. When they fall they believe they are forever fallen.

This is not so. Intent, desire, spirit, whatever you wish to refer to it as is the mettle of your actions. Can one fail and raise above? Yes! Can one live a life of steady progression? Yes! I know so many say one thing or another and it can be confusing but this is what I tried to relay in Faith: Vision or Version.

In Christianity we have the Bible. It is both a testament and a lineage of a faiths journey. This is an important point we should all remember. As Christians every law, directive, or instruction may no longer bound to you. As is relayed in John 14 there are only two requirements as Jesus states. You must believe in him  and the works he has done. You must also follow the Commandments.

These words single handily change all other laws and directives that came before. In God's new path we must accept the sacrifice of Jesus and the ten commandments. Some may argue this would include all the doctrine from before but I don't think so.  The story of Jesus is the proving of Gods covenant and the wiping away of the old path for the new one. Recognizing mans struggle to follow and understand it all, it was simplified and to be direct.

This is why it is sometimes referred as the end of an angry God where doctrine was absolute and immutable and the begining of a loving God. The path of Jesus is one of light and love. To defy that is to defy the very message that is repeated over and over.

So what does this hold for those of us in the LGBT community? It means you are not cast out. You are not an abomination. You are not to be killed. And most certainly not to be driven from God. How do we know this? Jesus himself. He touched and preached to prostitutes, lepers, unclean, and all the others that before had be considered unworthy.

If you want a specific case we can examine the story of the centurion and the pais. There is a lively debate on this story of whether it is about a centurion and his male lover or his slave. However regardless of that a Roman centurion came to Jesus and asked for his sick partner to be healed. The gay relationship is not in question. Nor is the sincerity of the Centurion to seek out a prophet he did not believe in to help him. Without question Jesus did so without even visiting the sick man. This shows intent that all are subject to Gods grace.

To all those judge you maybe you should remind them "Judge not lest ye be judged." A sentiment reinforced by Jesus in his famous "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." A powerful statement because all men carry sin. Judgement is God's and to usurp that is not his will.

And of those who will quote the old scripture to condemn you do not be swayed. If they wish to quote from the old path maybe you should ask them do they cut their beards, eat shellfish, cast out those with any infirmament of the eye, or even forbid women who are unclean to sit in their church.

The greatest realization all Christians need to understand is God reduced our obligations because he realized he himself was interfering in free will with so much dictation. You can believe or not. You can live a life of love or not. Realize its your choice. Christianity is the path for which to return to God once your time in this world is done. And if you look at those ten commandments you will find most are good advice on how to treat one another.

Your soul is forever yours. You have a lifetime to choose what you shall do with it. No man has the right to come between you and God. If they try or do then they themselves are walking in the dark, oblivious of God's light.

If you meet someone fall hopelessly in love and choose to join your lives it is a marriage and it is blessed by God. The great fear of dark forces who work with fear against us is its legalization. Because then  the words "Let no man come between what God has joined." will wipe away their hate. If you know love it's very definition is a blessing. 

I know this is a sensitive and tired topic for many in our community but it is one we must discuss with all due candor. Because in truth God has not condemned or abandoned us. Churches who usurp his words have. Many great pains and deaths have come from such actions.

My message to you in all of this is don't be angry with God for the actions of man. And know God did not let it happen  because of disdain. Man has free will even if it hurts another and goes into the dark. But don't allow it to take you with it.

The decision is yours. Will you choose light or dark? Will love or hate? Will you cast your stone or drop it in forgiveness? Whatever you choose I hope you know that you are not alone. Please know you are loved.

Love is Never Wrong

Friday, December 27, 2013

A Gift of Hope

Every year I try and post ways to help our greater community. I try to encourage you to do what you can to make at least one persons life better, happier, and safer. This year I wanted to wait till after the main holidays had passed.

All to often like the holidays our spirit to help fades till another event comes along to remind us. This year I have only one suggestion to add. Make giving part of your life not an event in it. No donation is to small when it comes to lifting another Human being up and giving them life, dignity, and pride.

Reach into yourself and help another.

Love is Never Wrong!

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

To Sochi with love

I've been quiet for some time. Life can throw things in your path that takes up your time or energy. Today however I want to talk about Sochi Olympics. It has been a topic of great discussion in our community of late.

The issue before us all is Russia's drastic and cruel anti-gay laws and the brutal violence it is spawning against us, simply for existing.

Some are calling for a boycott or even moving the Olympics to a nation that respects Human rights. Others stress an embargo of any Russian product. The suggestions are many but I think they all sort of miss the point we should be making.

Condemnation rarely works in authoritarian societies. It only sets them against you and entrenches them further in their beliefs and ideology. An embargo unless on a huge scale may hurt companies but does little to touch a government. To boycott or move the Olympics does not change beliefs. It will be viewed as an attack on values.

So how do we make an impact on a society set on dehumanizing a group or hurting them?  You love! Man may hurt you, lock you up, even condemn you. But it does not mean you can not do a thing. Love! Kiss, hug, hold hands, even dance. Love is not propaganda it is a connection. If you do not have that then your message is a voice in the wind.

Be who you are and stand. Refuse censure. Be proud and show love. Only in that purity can hate face the light of truth. When you see and know love before you it becomes much harder to hate. When you see it the lie that it is not natural begins to falter. When you stand, in love, you cause surety to waver.

I know I make it sound easy but it is not. To undo hate, violence, and miseducation takes time and many brave souls standing in unity and love letting that which society has unleashed know we are here and our love is not wrong.

Reject hate and do not allow it to flourish by inaction or complicity. Love and let the world see it. Let Russia see it.

Love is Never Wrong!

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Looking to the Stars

A while ago I came across a piece arguing for celebrities to come out and do more to help our community. It was a decent piece laying out why they should. I can't disagree the value of celebrity role models and presence to so many of us, especially our youth.

The stars today are asked so much. Not only must they act, sing, perform...they must promote, do charity, tell us their private lives. All just to catch peoples attentions. If we add the LGBT to the equation it becomes much more.

I've thought about this topic many times now since I first saw the video on it. The call, to me, should be one of caution. If made it should be a request not a demand.

The one sure thing about coming out is it should always be our own choice. As an extension of that sharing the information with people, let alone millions, again our own choice. It is so easy to look at the situation from the outside and say you should do this or that. In fact we should never put such pressure upon others.

Very few of us truly knows the impact such actions can cause. Will ultra conservative communities ban them? Do they increase risk to their lives in some areas? Will the message get drowned in politics? The questions are many.

As valuable as celebrity role models are I think we need to stop looking up. Look around us first. To me it is much more valuable to have local role models. If I am bashed or threatened is their an LGBT police officer to help me? If I'm concerned about my health do I have a LGBT doctor to visit? If I'm coming out do I have a LGBT center to visit?

The greatest impact in our lives are those who touch us. The people who care and understand. Those people should be the ones around you. My call is to them. We need you far more than a dreamy actor or actress in some far off place.

Security, confidence, inspiration... All are wonderful things we need in life. And all should be a call away at most. Role models are a powerful thing. Maybe we should realize they are all around us. And that is a far more powerful resource.

Leave stars and clouds for dreams and desires. If we need help, support, even comfort look around, we are everywhere. The challenge is being visible. But know if your always looking up the brightest thing may be missed.

Love is Never Wrong

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Pray The Gay Away

You know I have so many feelings on this topic and they stir such emotion in me. Quite simply Love is love. God made no mistake and we all play a role in this world, exactly as we are. So without saying more here is Shawn's confrontation. Please view it and let him know things are alright.

Shawn's difficult process began here.

Love is Never Wrong