Thursday, December 13, 2018

We Are Sovereign

Considering the news lately I need to repost this video.






Rape culture is real. There is a network of abusers that support one another. There are those for all practical purposes are above the law. Wealth can buy silence. Power can intimidate. Fame can dismiss the unknown.

The sovereignty of our bodies are our own at all times. No means no at all times. No cancels an earlier permission. A person not of sound mind, inebriated, or unconscious can not give consent.  Youth and the innocent are sacred.

To many don't listen or act when rape occurs. Justice is not usually served and society pays for it. The abuses pile up and from that ugly mound violence, darkness, pain, and death emerge. Sex should be about love.


#STOPRAPE


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Thursday, December 6, 2018

A Reflection

Every year at this time I urge you all to help others and select links to some suggested sites.  It is not going to happen this year.  You all know what to do and how to do it. It is your turn to make the world better. It is your turn to right all the wrongs wrought upon the multitudes of us so brutally treated.

I don't think I need to point out world events to direct you to problems. You have eyes, ears, minds and hearts from which to observe and think with. If you use them then there is hope. If you don't our world will quickly descend into a Hell and the suffering continues. It is your choice and always has been.

What I will do is give you all some reflections of my life. One lonely person who really fits no molds, designs, or places. One person who has believed in the goodness of man and tried time and again to fight for those others gave up on. One who has been punished for doing so. One who has been broken and lashed out themselves.

I am no martyr. I am just another person. However I am a person! Like all of you I have deserved a life and opportunity to be welcomed, loved, and even protected by the whole that is us all. What I have received however is much different.

In the past I have talked about the sexual abuse by a family member and the quietly hushed under the rug attitude of my family. Ironic, err the slightest offense to them and they scream bloody murder. They demand justice when they refused mine, and others.

A suicidal teen from that abuse got no recourse of concern from the local hospital when I finally reached out. Not even a return call to check on me. The very people supposed to treat you didn't even care.

Being LGBT... I don't think I even need to talk about the sins of society upon all of us. The Internet and world at large is full of those stories.

Faith, all faith.... You fail us.  We have always been here. Regardless of which religious path you follow I can solemnly say if we have always been here so has whatever God you follow placed us here. We have a purpose and place. And no it is no to punish and revile. If God created us we are as beautiful as you. To deny that means you question God. Be careful of judgment and usurpation of Divine right.

 Government.... Where do I begin. We are here. We are citizens. We are equal. Legislation of our existence or rights is and never shall be your power. I don't care who you are or where you are in this world. People are people. The idea you get to pick and choose people based on your preference is wrong.

If someone is actually hurting another then you have a point of recourse but it must be true and not perceived. The idea Human rights are even a thing to voted on is absurd. We are all equal. Any other idea is pure evil because your intent is quite clear. You want to hurt another. That makes you one of the monsters that ravage our world.

Normally I do not like negative posts and I try to minimize my direct life but this year I will make an exception. To all of you who have judged and hurt it is my turn to share my views of you. So we shall begin...

If I were to be true I would judge  this world to be wiped clean of all the horrible people, government, laws, all memories of such now and forever, through all realities and dimensions. Once the darkness was gone and the ghosts of the past and present purged then and only then would the world be ready for a new group of people.

Then I would say all those that start anew never be allowed to be influenced by evil again. The world is hard enough without people of darkness making it worse. To all the faiths I would say we don't need a God. We need a parent. This does not dismiss whatever gods place just their role. To many of us hurt or are left isolated and alone. You can not expect submission from people denied love.

Before I hear a comment on that last paragraph I say to you I am a person of faith.  I firmly believe when I say we need a parent.  We all need love. We need the unquestioning love of a father or mother when we have no other. We need it when those around us fail us, for whatever reason.

This is no condemnation just an observation. A parent loves and nurtures. A parent punishes. A parent guides. A parent cheers us on and helps us make our dreams. A parent protects us. Love, unconditional love.

I think to many of us have become over privileged and unappreciative of what we have. It has become normal to steal, lie, cheat, and hurt. People in power can violate laws and Human Rights without impunity.

Our very neighbors, family, would deny us what they have simply because they do not agree. Pain has become the norm.

I am not saying I or anyone else is above reproach. I know in my own pain and depression from the horrors of my life I have lashed out horribly. That is my point however. To many of us who do lash out are doing so due to not being able to sustain the cruelty dealt to us. Some of us just die. Some slowly and others by their own hands. It must stop.

The world is not ready for the gifts we have. We are not ready for the beautiful minds, souls, and creations of so many. They may make your world brighter but all you do is consume them and want more, and more, and more... Love is not your personal debit account to withdraw from without limit. Love is only sustained by more love.

You must contribute, however you can. You must add to that which sustains.

All the parasites to our system and world must be removed, permanently.  You are entitled to what is given. You have no right to steal.

So do we burn the world clean of that which devours us and hurts us? Do we purge the evil?  Sound familiar?

All wrongs should be righted, no matter who has done them. If that means all that exist disappears or changes then so be it. Then I would say remove all of us with the deep scars from the old world. Why should be carry that into the new. They deserve a chance to not know the horrors of the old world. My last message to them would be would be Love and never allow anything but. Heal the broken. Never abandon anyone. Always deliver justice.

Ironic isn't it.  My reflections are all that is lain against me and so many others. Except mine are true.

As I sit here I can say my reflections go on for so  so long and in great detail. That should not be necessary however. This isn't just about me. It is about so many others all over. I am one amongst many in a multitude. We are wronged and we are hurt. Some of us are no longer here due to it.

My request this year is undo all the wrongs to the beginning. And yes even the dead need justice. Without it we deny their pain and by proxy accept the horrors unto them.

Love, love you. Love others, Love the world. Wash away the hate, the pain, the very evil that poisons our society and let's try again with Love.



Love is Never Wrong!

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Children

Yesterday another attack upon children was announced in the news.

Trump Administration Forces National 4-H Group To Drop Welcome To LGBT Youth, Iowa 4-H Head Fired

Simply because we exist they seek to exclude us from having LGBT youth the same abilities to develop and participate.  Government power was directly used to threaten children. Shame!

How ironic of Robert Browning to say,

"Your children are not dead. They are just waiting until the world deserves them."

And for the people of faith I give you Psalms 127:3

"Lo,  children an heritage of the Lord: the fruit of the womb reward."


Any group or person who attacks the weakest among us who can not defend themselves is a monster. Children should not suffer monsters.



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Friday, November 9, 2018

Decree'

Before you begin to read I want you to know these may very well upset you or others. However, it must be said and it must stop. This is not a debate this is a fact.

The other day I posted Queen for a day. I would not be a good Queen if I did not love my people. So with all due love I do decree:

Any person who sells themselves or sells others in porn should not hold Title, place, or position of power. Sex is an act of love. When you place a value upon it or the people sharing themselves you devalue not only the act but the people.

Before I hear one word of counter I will say I am not against porn. If showing your body or embracing others makes you happy, brings people a sense of healing and love then that is fine. It is only when you add a price to it you destroy that which is priceless.

Every person is priceless. Your love is priceless. Never apply a value to it. When you do, you set a value to not just your time but your very love. You then begin to diminish the very thing that makes you shine. You sell the light. Do so enough and you will live in the dark, The dark can be a horrible place.

Sex is about love and it always should be, even when it is just you. There is no shame in sex. There is no shame in sharing yourself. There is shame in applying a value to love. For it is priceless, no matter what another tells you.

I don't condemn sex. I condemn the act of of selling it and the love it is. Some things are priceless. If you do price it you are now a thing to be bought and sold. It is not a normal profession. It is a form of slavery. No person should ever be enslaved.

Those few of you in this dark realm who lure, abuse, force, and violate others for such ends I decree to be enemies of the people. You enslave, you hurt, and you devalue people. May you names be cursed and you be imprisoned as you have done to others.

To those of you who have been led to believe sex work is a normal profession I say no it is not. You are not just selling your time and labor. You are selling your very spirit and soul. No society should ever endorse that.

As I said I do not condemn porn or sex. I condemn the act of affixing a value and diminishing the people. All this being said I don't condemn people who are hurt, lost, confused, or even mentally struggling who fall into bad places. . You all have value and this is what this is about.

Someone has to love you and the beautiful priceless people you all are. If you act in love, share your life in love. Then there is no crime or shame. When you affix a price or  hurt the value of others then there is shame beyond what should ever be done.

Fight for love, fight for yourself. Fight for your value and only give that which makes you more valuable.

All this being said I have one final decree this day. I decree if you our leaders or society can not or will nor take care of one another then you forfeit your rights to title, position, and power as well. 

We only have each other and there are some things you never compromise on. Everyone has value. Everyone has needs. To deny any is a crime. This is not a political statement or ideology. This is a fact of existence.

All people have rights. If people go without when there is enough that is a crime. When people are ignored or hurt that is a crime. When people have to devalue themselves just to live that is a crime. When you don't act in love that is a crime.

We live in a world where there is enough for everyone. It is greed and selfishness that brings us down. I am not condemning people who have worked and earned money, fame, or power. However if you do not use it to help others then you are part of the problem ravaging our great family.

If someone is hungry you feed them.  If someone is without clothing you cloth them even from yourself if necessary. If someone is hurt you help them however long and as much as is needed. 
The idea that anyone is to be cast away or had enough chances is despicable. Everyone matters and everyone deserves love.

It is time we abandoned parties factions, even empires. It is time we do the right thing. Everyone is different and has different needs and problems. It is time we move forward as one or not at all. If you can not see or do that then you are the problem.

Many people can fake emotion and words. But love is. There is no mistake about it. It may take time to see a persons intent or identity but it will show. If you are an enemy of love then you are an enemy of me and all people.

It does not mean I give up on you. It means you need to see who you truly are and we need to help you. The idea if you can not make it, you deserve your place, has shed enough blood and pain upon our society, 

If you will not change in spite of a loving hand extended to you time and again you must go. We have had enough darkness.

I decree love. There will be those who use and abuse my words. They may very well try to imitate me. But judge them in love. If it is not returned question why. Help them if necessary but never dismiss the value of anyone.



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Tuesday, November 6, 2018

Election Day

Here in the U.S. we are having our midterm elections. How we move forward as a nation maters this time around. I won't tell  you who to vote for. Blue or red are just colors. What I will say is vote for Love. Love for everyone.

From many we make one. Let us consider that when we cast our ballot. We are the keeper of our brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers... If your vote does not help all in some positive way then choose another. It is not about agreement or approval. It is about acceptance and love.

In the end is is about the red, white, and blue. Remember that. We are one. Take care of one another and always honor and respect.  If you can't give it you will never receive it.  Vote for love.



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Sunday, November 4, 2018

Mental Illness

Today we need to talk. We need to talk about things that are so prevalent in our lives. The stigma and pain of mental illness. Being LGBT we suffer so much from depression and many other issues due to society and our families. It is a pain we struggle with and not enough of us talk about it.  We suffer so much already.

I'm going to share some things from my life and those I know. The first thing I can say is there is always someone in or near you, dealing with issues, that may need help greater than they can deal with on their own. It is alright to get help. Talking about such things is also ok. There is no shame in someone needing help. There is only shame in those who refuse help or ridicule those in trouble.

Throughout my blog I have talked about my sexual abuse by a family member beginning when I was ten. This person assumed we were in a relationship. We were not. I had no concept of sex at that time. I truly was an oblivious child lost in worlds of wonder my mind provided.

Even to this day that family member walks free and never truly accepts the impact that he had on my life. His mind sees it as a consensual relationship. My mind views it as a horrible awakening into a world of nightmares. There are things I may never forget or truly let go of but I take each day one step at a time.

I talk to whoever I think can handle such, who feels safe. Sometimes I think some of them need to be awarded medals for hearing my stories. They are not easy or kind things to the hear. They can elicit such rage. But I try to remain calm. For me my faith was my comfort.

The sad thing is we have a few in my family with issues. One is the mother of my abuser. When my cousins husband found out about the abuse  he was a good man. He wanted to get me help and call the police. I wish he had. Maybe things could have been resolved better.

But that didn't happen. The mother of my abuser intervened. She is a very xenophobic person and rules with an iron fist. I still recall her words to him as if some stoic iron willed titan glared into his soul. "You married into this family . You are not a part of it. This will be dealt with by us." Sadly it was not.

So my family member was now supported by someone who's xenophobia is so extreme she believes in arranged unions and selective partnerships. In other words if you do not pass her muster you are not worthy of the family. Like I said I have a few in my family.

If she were to read this now she would lecture me and badger me into removing these accounts. To her only her world matters. Even when she does help others it becomes a story to promote herself. I believe there are good intentions there but therein lies a problem.

She in her own minds traumas desperately tries to mold the world around her. If everything is not in place or proper order or if things are not controlled she begins to falter. It is never good to let issues go for to long and not face them. She is proof of such. Her world is a glass menagerie. You can look and admire but do not touch. If one of the animals falls and shatters, so does she. 

I have a friend who is a good man. but being burdened with a failing marriage and working in health care one night a baby died while he was trying to save it. He has never been the same after that. Sometimes we just snap when our minds can handle no more.

Thankfully he got help. Therapy and medicines now give him a much more normal life. He is not healed but I think he is slowly getting better. It forced him to understand his limits and explore more about who he truly is. And that is a good thing. I wish him better days and a brighter future with lots of love.

Another friend of mine has had a life of hardships and family problems. I can't say any one was enough to cause his problems but together they were a weight to great to bear. He still struggles but did get help and he acknowledges the problems he has. I think that is a good beginning.

These are a few examples I can share. Many people have struggles but we have to be most careful. We, the LGBT,  have the extra burdens of violence and lack of acceptance and care.

If you have a problem, are sad, or whatever seems to much for you to handle please get help or find someone to unload your troubles upon. A friendly ear can do wonders. It may not be enough but try. Don't let the darkness shroud your world.

The world right now is full of people who fear, don't understand, or refuse to understand. There is violence, hate, and a lack of love in so many. Raise your beacons and proclaim your existence and needs. Help one another.

We lose to many lives. Let us not lose beautiful minds as well. Be well and be free. When a community helps each other we build things of wonder.

I have love for all people. Even those who have hurt me. It is not always easy and many can not understand. All I can say is love. It may not solve everything but it can heal. Hopefully in time with enough love that part of you that struggles is smaller than the love in your life. Then and only then you can look upon things and realize how small they can become in the scope of of life. 

Live, Love, Forgive!


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Saturday, November 3, 2018

If I were Queen for a day...

Amazing how old songs can make you think. There is wisdom in music, if  you listen. So the song that inspired today's post.





"Cause in your dreams
The Demon screams
I know he's going to
Hurt you blind."

I would abolish all the Demons & Devils who haunt our lives. Life is painful enough without outside forces interfering.

"I've heard it said
Or maybe read
Only money makes
The world go round

But all the gold
Won't heal your soul
If your world should
Tumble to the ground"

Money does not make the world go round.  It is people who are the most precious things and their dreams propel us into realms unknown. I would decree if one of us falters none of us progress until the fallen can stand and join us. 

Funny we know what our hearts crave and we sing about it but we never make it happen. Life is about Love! Love for you and for the others around you. If you can't love then you must go. There is no place in a society that seeks to thrive. 

That is the point I think. We all must thrive. Everyone! So if you seek to lead and you leave anyone behind, torture, hurt, or violate the sanctity of the individual you forfeit your power, That is my decree. 

Live, Love, Forgive! 

So this lonely Queen on her day declares you all free as long as Love, Compassion, Duty, Honor, and Equality are in your minds, hearts, and very soul. And if they are not expressed in your actions then you must be imprisoned as you imprison love.  Let love reign for nothing else sustains.

Long Live the Queen?  ;)



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Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Inhumanity

I look around and see young men marching int he streets. Some carry torches, all with rage. The systematic stripping of Human rights is discussed and done while the masses are distracted easily with flashy displays and rhetoric.

The usual minorities LGBT, Jews, Blacks, immigrants, and whoever else does not fit a racial view are harassed, tortured, and murdered. Fear & helplessness affect many, Some with no way to fight back.

Some religious leaders follow in rank and file along with men of business. The old guard views it as us vs. them. Then comes their time and their names are tarnished with the abuse of others so no one who is left helps them.

What a horrible picture it must have been living in Germany in the 1930's as the Nazi regime came to power. What a horrible picture to see it beginning in your own country more than 70 years later. What would the men and women who fought and died so long ago think upon seeing it now.

My observations are not lies, false, or inaccurate. Watch the news. Believe for yourself.

Any movement left or right, elitist or 99%, pious or common... must honor the individual. This is how we got here. People think it is alright to dismiss the wills of others to achieve their goals, for "the common good,"  I say the common good is what matters to us all, the commoners.

I have posted this link before. Maybe we need to view its stark similarities again. Maybe we won't have to relearn all the darkness we drove back into the deep dark night.

https://www.ushmm.org/


Usually I add some words here but I would rather another did that today.

http://remember.org/malka.html




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Sunday, October 21, 2018

Gender

So I wake up this morning to peruse the usual news sources LGBT and otherwise. I find this.

Trump Plans to Legally Abolish Transgender People, Define Gender by Genitalia at Birth: Memo


Gender based on immutable biological traits identifiable by or before birth. So what do we do with hemorphidite children. What about the fact transgender people tend to have the brain chemistry of the gender they associate with. Its there, its a valid trait.  DNA does influence outcome, proto tags influence it. Mothers chemistry and temperature influence it....

The truth is you can attach a label to something but it does not change what it is. If you wish to run and hide from the realities of what life is and what people are then you are the one misdiagnosed.

Gender its self is a label that limits. Be who you are and explore who you are. If you are happy with a very narrow definition then great but not everyone is. It is not a world of just one or a few. It is all of our world.

No one has the right to hurt or shame. No one has the right to force one to be what they are not. This debate has nothing to do with gender.  This is everything to do with control. I control me. You control you. You can hurt me, abuse me, confuse me... in the end it is and always has been about me.

I am me. If you can not or will not accept that then you need to leave my world now and forever. If you can not live in harmony with all the wonderful peoples who choose to live here then it is you who are the one who must go.

There has been enough darkness, pain, and bloodshed over these horrible forced limitations. Be free and be you. Love the world and those who seek to enslave it one small step at a time. Shine your light upon their wrongs and defy the pain.

If you loved you would love us all. If you can't love us all then that says something loud and clear.

You are you, whoever you may be. Love that. Love the others who are different. Love that we are all different. What a beautiful palette we all make when love touches the sky. To borrow a line...."Touch the rainbow!"



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Thursday, October 18, 2018

Liberty

“Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me,
I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”



Honored words from so long ago. As one of many I think they should still hold true. However one must honor the country you flee to by at least trying to enter through proper channels.

In recent days to many have come to fear the outsider. As another great American once said "The only thing to fear is fear its self." If we turn our backs on those most in need then we do disservice to the very principles this nation was founded.

What is true however, we can not take everyone. Becoming a refugee should be a last resort. I wish everyone happiness, love, prosperity, and liberty.

A word of advice is that liberty begins in you. Change you, change your family, your home, your town, your nation. The blessings of liberty are hard won. Be free, love, change all that seeks to enslave you.

To the tired, the poor, the huddle masses come if you have no other choice. I can't speak for all but I can say no one who wants and fights for liberty should ever be turned away.

Liberty is love, granted and given. Love the world.




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Sunday, October 14, 2018

Being Lonely

So many of us in our community are lonely. There are many reasons for this. Most of it can be boiled down to two many issues. We are never truly accepted in society and face isolation and harassment on a regular basis. The other issue being what it means to be us.  Every LGBT person will have a different answer.

This has been a problem for so long. The answer however is a lot simpler. The hard part is undoing all those forced gender norms and expectations. If we were honest it would sound like this. "I am sorry straight society you are dysfunctional even amongst your own."

What does it mean to be a man?, a woman?, to belong, to be a family?  Ask anyone and you will get different answers. They may have similarities but no absolutes. There lies the problem. You expect us to conform to something that never conforms to you.

Men can dress up in women's clothing and full make wanting to feel pretty and still be straight. Gay men can be masculine, outgoing and jocks. Lesbians can be beautiful and dainty. Transgender can be straight but the wrong gender.

For far to long the few who want their view of what is normal have forced, bullied, humiliated, and murdered us to fit a mould. It is not about religion, morality, or society. It has always been about power. If they can make you do what they want they keep you off balance.

The truth is we are all beautiful, we are all worthy of love. Their is no definition to love. It is instead a wondrous thing that enchants when we let if free. Try it sometime. Hold your tongue. Don't lecture, support.  Judge love not likeness. Accept even if its not you or you understand.

People are... Families are... Love is...  It is that simple. The definition is in what works for you and how you shape your life. You can't be anything or anyone other than you. As I have said society is not ready for us. It really has not been ready for its self.  So just love.

Now all this being said I am not advocating for anarchy or wholesale rejection of traditions. I am saying however take that which fits you and preserve that. But before you reject what you think is not you at least try to understand what you are rejecting. If you do not then you are on the same path  as what has hurt you.

My only other advice is when you love, truly love. Don't settle. Love and you are priceless. You don't have to do anything that does not feel right or enrich you. If someone is trying to say otherwise get away from them. You can only be you and you are capable of love and value.

Even in love there may be roads of pain but know are the light in the dark. The darkness is being consumed into the definitions that are not you.

To those who live in the dark I say you are wrong and always have been. It doesn't matter if you can be at the top, have power, or fame. It doesn't matter what you think on anything other than you.  If you truly cared you would celebrate all those wonderful differences we have in life and cherish those who make your life better.

Two life long friends can raise a child together and be a family. Two women who madly love one another can be a family. A family friend who takes in an orphan can be a family. All you need is love.

What's normal? The answer is you. What's not normal? The answer is anything that hurts another or yourself. To many take it upon themselves to dictate life. Never do that.

You can advise, support, love, even toss your hands up in frustration. But always love, always accept, even if its not you. Acceptance is not approval. It is love. I may not understand or agree but I love you and I want you to be happy, even if its not my life.

Life can be lonely but if we love we can be fulfilled. Go bask in that warmth I think you will find loneliness fades and people flock to you. You can't fake it. You can't imitate it. You can only experience it.

If you can't, find help. Find someone. Life is a journey of emotions and experiences. Don't miss the biggest part of your journey.

Live, Love, Forgive.



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Wednesday, September 26, 2018

The Silenced/Ignored

Today I want to talk about something that affects society as a whole. However; it is quite problematic for our community as we can be the ones most unheard. I want to talk about child abuse. I need to talk about child abuse...

To often children are being used as punching bags, sex toys, cash machines, and targets for all sorts of demented rage. I've shared some of my own experiences in the past and I have heard countless more from others in my life.

Part of me wants to get everyone the help they need and then the other part says some people should not reproduce or be around kids. Either way we have an epidemic and it is festering. We complain about the oozing pus but never seem to truly treat the wound.

We have parents who use their kids as cash machines trotting them out like made up dolls just to make a dollar. We have some who think it is alright to sexualize a child... I don't think I need to go further down that path in this article. It says enough with just that. We have...

In our community we face beatings for not conforming to our gender. We face sexual abuse both to "correct us" and because we are the most vulnerable being the smallest minority in society as a whole.  We get bullied for being different, even into adulthood. We grow up most everyday hearing some form of condemnation that we are some form of evil. I have to say who abuses a child in such a way that is not themselves a monster for such words or actions?

In my own life I recall all the time hearing such words. I recall the hate and violence expressed that someone might even be called gay. Back then it was only gay or straight they really didn't recognize anything beyond that. My point is you have no idea how hard that is to hear for someone who knows they are different. You have no idea how hard it is to develop hearing such things.

Now imagine the further threats on life. In my own case I recall the young man found dead in a ditch after he came out. There was no hate crime laws then. The talk then was he's just a fag. He got what he deserved.

Then we have the subtle abusers. I don't care what you do as long as its not in my face. I'm sorry two people holding hands, kissing, or smiling and having a flirty conversation offends you but we deserve to find love. We deserve to be loved. To the religious...  If you know love you know God.

To many children walk with bruises, tortured souls, scars that may never completely heal, and check out of life before their time. You know I find this harder to write than I thought. There is to much to say and to much pain for all involved. We hurt and we have little to no justice as a whole. It is time for wounds to heal.

When will society treat the wounds and begin taking care of those hurt and lost children?

We certainly have been taking about this for some time. It's even in our music. Maybe we should listen to all those songs that were viewed, some hits, and listen with our hearts. Maybe, just maybe, we would do the right thing.










The above are a few of many voices talking about crimes that have been and are being committed. When do the silenced and ignored get their justice and are allowed to heal? Can they all be healed? I hope so. I hope there is enough love in the world because the tidal wave of hurt could wash away a continent.

I hope, I pray, one day there is no more pain and all can find peace. We all deserve peace.

All my love to the others.



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Sunday, September 2, 2018

Let's Hear it for the L

Today is for all the powerful women in our community. Please enjoy!















With that please add your voice to the chorus.  Joy and love silence hate and warm hearts. Be proud!



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Thursday, August 30, 2018

If We Were honest

If we were honest we would know there can be no peace until all wrongs are undone and justice serves all. There can be no compromise on this.

Those who lie, cheat, steal, and worse must answer for their actions. Their wrongs must be undone. This also can not be compromised.

There can be no peace without justice. There can be no forgiveness without atonement and there can be no place for intolerance.

None of these words are violence or death. They are true as any can be. It is time to be honest. It is time to heal.

The saddest part is we can only progress and heal to the tune of those words above. Action is easy. The emotions of those actions are the hard part. You may very well cry, ache, and even fall apart but you must heal. We all must heal.

The bill for the abuse, pain, torture, and deaths of so many is now due.  Pay or go I say. The Earth can only sustain those with a heart, a soul.  If you can not be bothered to muster either you must go.

I chuckle at those who will surely abuse these words to other meanings. Because lies begin even at the top nowadays.  I only speak truth on this. Pay or go.

Since many will debate the debt, I shall say this:  As long as the hurt carry pain you carry debt. The dead and those who can no longer speak must still be granted justice. The disillusioned, sick, and tortured must be righted.

As I said there can be no peace until all wrongs are undone and justice reigns for all, living or dead. It is not enough to progress. It is not enough to survive. Life must have meaning and life must have love. If we all loved we would not be here now.

It is time. Love or don't. Stay or don't. Pay or don't.



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Saturday, August 25, 2018

Our Mother

Today I want to talk about something that goes beyond our civil rights and oppression. I want to talk about our mother, Earth. This is no green article, hippie love fest, or new age thoughts. This is fact.

The pacific ocean has a mass of plastic the size of Texas in it. A good portion of the planet is in drought or ablaze from wildfires. Volcanoes are erupting. Toxic filled waters are fueling out of control flesh eating bacteria. Disease is raging where it should not.Climate change is happening.  Life, all life is under threat.

A reality is dawning and few are listening. You can gain all the civil rights in the world but if you have no world from which to live you are most certainly dead. Our house is on fire. Do we wait till we are burning to put it out?

I know many will read this and dismiss it. I know many will not believe it. I know many more will do nothing. I say to you go look, research, or even listen. You will find what I say to be true.

It is time to clean up from our wasteful party, it is time to restore our home so we can have shelter, breathable air, drink, and food. It is time we stop bio-assassination. It is time we stand up to those who dismiss and add to the problem.

Go forth replant those forests, restore those wetlands, return environments to what they should be not what we desire, clean up the trash, and most importantly stop creating it.

You want a quick reality check? Between 1-3% of our normal waste can not be recycled or repurposed. That means 97% can be used again or for something else. Why aren't we?

You can be selfish, you can be lazy, you can cover your ears and hum but this is not going away and even if we all began today it would take time to fix. So I guess that leaves the question why do you use and abuse your mother?

When she is gone we will be alone or dead, because one thing is true. We are most certainly all selfish arrogant children that need a wake up call and punishment. Do or don't it is all our lives. Live or die. It really is that simple.

Only then can we worry about how we treat one another. Let us hope our efforts for Earth are better than that.

Peace, life, love.



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Monday, August 13, 2018

Wanderings

Everyone worries about the current and future generations. Listen to them. They will tell you what they need and where we are going. Then and only then we can help them understand why we hold some things so dear.




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Friday, August 10, 2018

Wanderings

Have you ever realized the message is the same on all sides just executed differently? Makes you wonder if it's not the message it must be the people. Maybe we need to look, hear, and know those around us.



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Saturday, August 4, 2018

Wanderings

There is more dignity in one standing alone in defiance of the darkness than in the entirety of those who seek to extinguish the lights. Shine on!



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Friday, July 27, 2018

Human Dignity

The other day I read an article which said currently there is an assault happening on Human dignity.  I couldn't help but shake my head and be hurt. There has been an assault on Human dignity for quite some time.

We live in a society where NO is not always perceived as such when it comes to sex. People still judge you based on your skin color, body size, masculinity or femininity... We live in a society that is thrilled about better ecological management but never actually participates. People want rewards but scoff at the hard work to get there.

Society blames religion just as religion blames society. People think universal Human rights are a thing to regulated and voted upon. War is always the option to execute your ideas. Peace is only respected when you have lost it all. And sadly love is always wanted but not always given.

I could continue this list for many pages. However I think we all know something in our lives that falls on this list. Maybe the assault on Human dignity will stop if we finally realize we are not on the opposite side, just different, and we must give as much as receive. Maybe we should find value in all things, most especially people.

Love works wonders when you choose to open your hearts, even when difficult, to people around you. Extend respect, forgive pains, and love. Then we will have dignity. The rest will fall into place. When you have good foundations you can then build safely.




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Thursday, July 19, 2018

My Wonderwall

I found this nice video today. It would be nice if we all had such love. Maybe one day we will.








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Thursday, June 14, 2018

This is Me

Yesterday I found this lovely video on the Advocates web site. I hope you enjoy it.








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Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Virtue & Vigilence

I only have a quote from a very wise man today. Think about it and make a choice.

"While the people retain their virtue and vigilence, no administration, by any extreme of wickedness or folly, can very seriously injure the government in the short space of four years."

-  Abraham Lincoln



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Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Love

It does not take much to look around the world today to see so much chaos, violence, and despair. The truth about all this is that so much of it is quite intentional. There are those for whatever reasons choose to hurt you, divide, you and even confuse you.

If they can achieve these things they can direct you where they will. They can delegate what and how much you get. They can choose who lives or dies. They set the pace and it never out does them. But then that is their weakness. They see the brillance that is you and can only achieve by bringing you down.

Oh I know this not apply to all but it does apply to many. To many are hurt, stirred up by , or oppressed by a small group of very selfish people. To many suffer.

I am not telling you anything I am sure most of you know. That is not what this post is about.  What I do want you to know is love. I talk about it so much.

You see all the things that make you who you are go beyond the physical body and into our hearts, minds, very soul. What you need to know is good people can do bad things but good people learn and grow. They seek forgiveness and try to right wrongs.

No matter what happens to our bodies no one can take our very core. That is ours and ours alone. It is why some hurt and oppress. They wish to crush that resistance in you. However only you have that power. They can't touch that which is us. Only we can.

If we base our core on love and try to live, love, and forgive then all their work is for naught. And in the end it only takes one lonely, tired, and very hurt soul full of love to undo all their hate and division.

Many times I have told you all to stand int he light. Evil things can't hide themselves there. It means they will be seen and that very sight is an account of their wrongs. It is an account of things they must pay for. And with time and love they shall.

The only thing that truly matters is what is inside you. Hopefully it is love for it heals and sustains all.

I wish you all love.


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Monday, May 7, 2018

A Return?

It is apparent some seek to return us to division and discrimination.  Maybe I should remind those who wrap themselves in flag and country...

U.S. Constitution, Amendment 14

All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside. No state shall make or enforce
any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any state deprive any person of life. liberty. or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of laws.


So quite simply... The rights of one are the rights of all. Life, liberty, and property are immune to legislative removal or undue requirements.  I find it sad when politicians legislate morality by silencing their opposition by punishment, harassment, and worse.

We are citizens and we are most certainly equal. It is you who seek to abridge, who are the enemy of the people. You know the one this grand document attests to,  We the People...



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Sunday, May 6, 2018

A Prayer

O brothers and sisters I reach for you. We stumble, we fall. I do my best to lift you up.
Now your down, look around. Our world is full of the fallen. Will you help me lift the others up?


A blessing I pray:

Bless us all. May we all know peace, love, and justice.
Bless us all to know resolution and grace.

May we all know we are one. We lift each other up.
May we all know love so that it grows in our hearts.
May we all know to cast out the dark things.
May we all know to get the dark ones help.

Bless all of you who hurt!
May the blessings of peace, love and justice reach your hearts as well.
May you, most of all, know to unload your burdens upon broader shoulders.
May you know that unburdening is not to be feared but embraced.
May you know you are the whole, the voice, the power, the love.

To this I pray may we all know love and with that justice.
All good things spring from love it is only our burden to embrace it.
So brothers and sisters of the rainbow, or not , faithful or not I pray in all things,
Love visited upon you.


I know this is a bit different than my usual posts but when all else fails pray and love. Whoever you are whatever you believe one can not deny putting good thoughts out into the world are anything but good. Bless you all.



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Thursday, March 15, 2018

The Arena

In ancient times men battled in large arenas providing a huge spectacle of violence and death. Who would think today we face the same barbaric display, albeit by other fashion. There most certainly is something wrong with the world today.

When politicians are elected in spite of their dishonesty and moral and ethical failings. When those same politicians take food, medicine, housing, rights from the weakest amongst us. When good people jump into that arena in rage.

The struggle has never been a war. It is simply right and wrong. There is no war of ideologies. There is no war period! There is however an abundance of selfishness and greed. Toss in an unhealthy dose of self importance.

We have so many problems and as I have written for some time now the answer is and always has been love. It is simply up to you to overcome your self imposed limitations. Pain, upset, anger... realize all those are the expressions of things wrought unto your life.

The challenge, the struggle, is to overcome and love rather than lash out.  We may fall at times but if we love we can again stand. There is no greater pride than standing in love.

Confront the wrongs in the world. Do so with love. We all falter and we all hurt. Let us not add any more. It is time to heal.

So now you know what the arena is. That vile pit where some in their own hurt, pain, selfishness, and self importance seek to draw you into in order to bring you down to their level. Just a warning, never go in. For it is a pit of vipers and their bites will linger long and painfully upon your flesh.

Confront the wrong, confront the pains. Stand and defy those who dare introduce an arena. As a community we most notably know about hiding. We should be able to spot those who hide things in the guise of vicious debate and personal berating.

Anyone who would tear you down and not help you rebuild or heal deserves nothing from you but defiance. Let them know in no uncertain terms NO!  No you will not stand for their vile actions and their war against anyone who does not benefit them.

Go in peace. Go in love. Go with surety.

The world is ours and it always has been. All of ours! The time of anyone being ignored, hurt, abused, or even murdered is done. Do not allow ancient gladiators to drag you back to a time when pain was acceptable and not everyone mattered.

It is a big world with countless peoples all with different lives and ideas. We all matter and we all deserve love. We all deserve peace.  Equality, dignity, respect, compassion, and love are! They are not a thing for debate, legislation, or voting.

One day we will have our day in the sun. Nothing to hide. Just the warm bask of a bright day where no monsters hide in wait and the warmth of love lets us know the only struggle is within ourselves.

Overcome and stand. It has been to long a night. And love has to long waited

Ignore the arena in your life. Justice is the answer not the fight. If the clothing of justice is love then no one wants.



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Saturday, February 3, 2018

Dangerous Ideas and Trends

I don't care to be in the negative on things in life. I believe people should have a great deal of lee-way and room to make mistakes. However; a dangerous trend is appearing in LGBT media. Compassion and Humanity must exist for all of us but endorsing and enabling self-destructive behavior is not either of those.

Some will greatly disagree with me on some of the positions I am about to take and you are entitled to your thoughts but I shall have nothing to do with harmful actions.

First of all you have the right to be free and equal. That being said you do not have the right to revenge, special rights, or freedom to do anything. Freedom is a glorious thing but to much is bad like anything else.

Sex! It is not my place to comment on what adults do in their bedrooms as long as it is consensual and not harmful. However listing yourself like a market product on a hook up app is not healthy. Neither is the wide use of nude pics to entice people. If your aim is truly happiness why are you giving all your intimate details before you even meet someone?

Anonymous sex may be a form of release but it is very bad for the soul. Look for love and love yourself in the process. You are not a product to be displayed, ogled, and touched by whoever roams about. You are wonderful person and if someone can not appreciate you or wait for you without such things then they are not a person you want to be with.

Oh I have heard the odd success story but if you follow that person up it still falls apart. Lust is not love. Now if you choose to live that life by all means do so but realize what you seek and it's costs. Love is much more precious.

Alright now about sex workers that seems to pop up in our media so much. I don't condemn people in such professions but I will not endorse it either. And in no case should it be considered normal. I do not see it healthy to have a society that young people aspire to such work. It is a dangerous path. As I said before even the best intentions and goals can be eroded by constantly giving yourself in such ways. You put a price on yourself. You to become a product instead of a person. And because of it people think of you as a product.

Each and every one of us is priceless. We can fail and make mistakes. We can be free spirits. But always love! Love yourself!

Drug use... whether it is a problem or recreational this is a bad idea. Giving up some amount of self control to a substance just so you can avoid thoughts, ideas, stress... It is not a solution and it is not a enhancement. It is avoidance from facing realities and making better choices. Love my dears, love! Love you, love your body, and love having fun without the need for drugs. Life is a wonderful high if you just give it a chance. 

Racism/discrimination what can I say. It is all to often some people don't practice what they preach in life. They are perfectly happy dismissing or alienating those they don't care for in life. Get over it! Whether someone is feminine or masculine,  black, white, yellow..., thin or heavy, hairy or smooth, tall or short... It does not matter.  If you are not attracted to certain traits that is fine. That is Human nature and desire. However brutally criticizing and completely eliminating such people form your lives is cruel and all that you seek others to not do to you.

Be open in life. Some of the greatest people you will meet will be in those wide categories you rule as not your type. We are the rainbow. Without all those wonderful colors we diminish the beauty that is us. I don't know about you but I find it all beautiful.

There are other things I could say right now but these are the most important. Life should be about love and you should love life. You should love your life. It is the people who seek to steal your love you need to worry about. Don't feed into them by selling your love to them. Love and value yourself as a priceless masterpiece.

A masterpiece is wonderful work of art that ravages our soul with thoughts, ideas, desires, beauty,  and yes love.  It should be rare and precious. It is not a mass produced image in a cheap frame touched by hundreds before someone buys it. It is unique and one of a kind. Value your masterpiece properly else all you will ever have is market you sell it upon.

Love is priceless. It is us who fail to realize its value. To all of you I wish you love in all things!



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