Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Pride & Definition

Today I am taking a break from links to address an issue that is all to prevalent in our community. I want to talk about Pride and Definition. Two topics that are so mixed up and hard for so many to grasp.

Pride is a simple concept and most of us struggle with it. Society has not made our journey to self discovery easy but when we do come into our own we should have pride. Pride is not only about ourselves but of all those who share our struggles. We are one no matter how we try to define ourselves.

Take pride in being gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, or whatever identity or orientation you are. Take pride in those who struggle much the same way you do. They may be worlds apart in expression but it's a common journey we share and that is our Pride! We do not walk alone and should never think so. We should never hold the differences we share as excuses or as a hindrance to ourselves.

It can be easy to separate ourselves from the people in our community who stick out the most because we are not like them and society frowns upon them. We must struggle against those thoughts. The concept that someone is doing something wrong or not being normal is our biggest enemy.

The first step to making a better world for all of us is to shatter stereotypes. No one should be held to someone else' mould. We are all unique and beautiful people. We have to realize that though. Which is an important part of pride.

There is a reason why our community chose a rainbow flag as our symbol. It represents all the variations that make us up and define us. We are a beautiful spectrum of life and like the rainbow we are all unique and wondrous.

I know our struggle to define ourselves can be so difficult at times. We all have our challenges. So allow me to offer some advice from my own struggles. First and foremost define you. Don't worry about others definitions worry about your own. We can never be anyone else. We may be similar but never the same.

When you realize and accept you are you and others are themselves then you begin to have pride. People may try to rationalize you or compare you but don't allow it and certainly don't buy into it. Once you have that pride be proud. If that means you act feminine or masculine, you do drag, or even become vivid and colorful in a gay pride parade more power to you.

Only you know what makes you happy and how you are supposed to be. The same can be said of others. Respect should always be given, especially to those who are most different to you. Everyone deserves respect and dignity. Never dismiss or condemn them for expressing who they are.

When you are sure of yourself be proud. You have probably gone through one of the toughest journeys of self discovery we as Humans experience. Be proud that everyone else who struggled is now who they are. because in the end we are all a family of the rainbow. We come in many shapes, colors, sizes, orientation, identity', and definitions. Most importantly we are ourselves and because of that we are a unity of difference.

So to borrow a line from a song  "...I see your true colors, and that's why I love you, so don't be afraid to let them show, your true color, true colors are beautiful, like a rainbow."

Love is Never Wrong

Monday, November 29, 2010

Gay Kansas

Kansas, the heart of the Great Plains. A sometimes controversial state with a tumultuous past. Today is your day.

The Kansas Equality Coalition of Southwest Kansas is an advocacy group. Volunteer opportunities exist.


Emporia State University has Pride. It is mainly a support and education group for LGBT students. There is not a lot listed online.


The University of Kansas has Queers & Allies and its LGBT Resource Center. Queers & Allies is in the style of a gay-straight alliance and offers education, support, and advocacy. The resource center is more focused to support and education.



Lawrence area schools have a gay-straight alliance. They have some decent links. Check them out.


Flint Hills Pride is focused on support and social events.


NetworQ is an organization dedicated to LGBT education, support, and advocacy.


PFLAG has chapters in Flint Hills and Lawrence/Topeka. Flint Hills is only a listing. Lawrence/Topeka has lists of resources.



GLSEN has a chapter in Kansas City.


Pittsburg State University has a Gay-Straight Alliance. They offer education, support, and social events.


Wichita State has That Gay Group. They seem more focused on support and social events.


Wichita Pride is focused on social events to educate and support the LGBT community.


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Sunday, November 28, 2010

Gay Maine

Maine, forested rolling mountains and beautiful coastline. Today is your day.

Bowdoin College has two resources. The first is their Queer-Trans Resource Center. It offers education, support, and campus advocacy. The second source is the Bowdoin Queer Straight Alliance. They are much the same as the first source but student led and more focused on student advocacy and support.



GLSEN has chapters in Downeast Maine and Southern Maine. They are basic sites. They should be able to offer similar resources as the national one.



The University of Maine has their GLBT Services. There are several links to other campus groups and resources.


Southern Maine Pride is a group dedicated to education, outreach, and social events.


Proud Rainbow Youth of Southern Maine (PRYSM) is a support and leadership organization for LGBTQ youth. Volunteer opportunities are available.


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Saturday, November 27, 2010

Gay Wisconsin

Wisconsin from its highlands to the lowlands its heavily forested. Your never to far from water however. Today is your day.

PFLAG has chapters in Madison and Oshkosh. Both have only basic online information. If you need info or help contact them however. Most PFLAG chapters have great resources to help.



Fair Wisconsin is an advocacy organization.


The Milwaukee LGBT Community Center offers health and education information, advocacy, and some social events.


The LGBT Community Center of the Chippewa Valley does have good links and resources. It however is the only one I have seen so far the requires a membership fee.


OutReach is an LGBT Community Center in Madison. There is a great deal to view here. Volunteer opportunities are available.


La Crosse Pride is a social event that seeks to educate and celebrate our community. Go and have fun!


Lawrence University has GLOW. It seems to be mainly supportive in nature. Not a lot is online so check into yourself.


The LGBT Resource Center Seven Rivers Region offers education, support, and safe havens for the LGBT community.


The University of Wisconsin at La Crosse has two resource sites. There is the Pride Center and Rainbow Unity. Rainbow Unity is in the style of a gay-straight alliance and is more  supportive and education group. The Pride Center seems to be a support the whole life approach to their students, faculty and families of both. Check them out.



Positive Voice is a LGBT news and information site. They cover the northeast of the state. Many links and resources are available.


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Friday, November 26, 2010

Gay Utah

Utah from the mountains to the basins and the desert you will find a wide variety of terrain and natural wonders. Today is your day.

Utah State University has a listing of LGBTQA services. I wish there was more description but at least its something.


The Ogden OUTreach Center offers education, support, and social services to the LGBT community.


Equality Utah is an advocacy group. Volunteer opportunities are available.


Ogden also has a PFLAG chapter. Various resources and support can be found here.


The Utah Pride Center is located in Salt Lake City. They offer a wide variety of resources and links. Everything from support to advocacy. Check them out.


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Thursday, November 25, 2010


Here in the United States it is our holiday of Thanksgiving. It's a day where we give thanks for what we have throughout the year. It can be the people in your lives, blessings of fortune, or even our triumphs over adversity. Today I have no links to share. Instead I am leaving this day as a point of reflection for all of us.

Remember the people and things in your life that have made it more special or even doable. Maybe thank them or tell them you love them. If it was a triumph think how it changed you and made you a better person. And most importantly return all kindness in life. We can all make the world  a better place.

To all my viewers, thank you for visiting. I hope I have helped in some small way. Happy Thanksgiving!

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Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Transgender Support and Resources

For all my Transgender brothers and sisters I hope these links help. The only links I am leaving out are PFLAG. They are universal support for all the LGBT community so check those out as well. They are listed by state in my blog. I will begin adding new Transgender links at least once a week.

The Chicago Gender Society is an education and support group. I think we all could use that.


Genderwork is a support and advocacy group aimed at female to male members of the Transgender society.


Illinois Gender Advocates is an education and advocacy group.


TransKids Rock Support Group is focused for parents and family of Transgender people. We all need support and understanding so check them out. This is only a listing.


The Indiana Transgender Rights Advocacy Alliance is an education and advocacy group.


Indy Boyz is a female to male support group. They have some good resources.


If anyone know of resources for a state I miss please inform me so I may add them.

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Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Gay Alaska

Alaska our northernmost state and probably most wild. From the mountains to the many bays its a beautiful land. Today is your day.

PFLAG has chapters in Juneau, Fairbanks, and Anchorage. The first two only have listings so I will include them here. The Anchorage site is simple and easy to navigate with good basic information.




Alaska Pridefest is a social event that seeks to educate and support the LGBT community.


Alaskans Together for Equality is an advocacy group.


Identity is a community center. They offer many resources to educate, support, and offer social events to foster such. Volunteer opportunities are available.


GLSEN has an Alaska chapter.


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Monday, November 22, 2010

Gay South Dakota

South Dakota home of the Black Hills, Mt. Rushmore, the Badlands, and many other wonderful sites. Today is your day.

The Black Hills Center for Equality is a community center that offers education, support, health resources, and advocacy.


Centers for Equality is mainly an advocacy group. They do offer support and resources however. Volunteer opportunities are available.


Equality South Dakota is an advocacy group. Volunteer opportunities are available.


PFLAG has a chapter in Sioux Falls. They don't have much listed online but most PFLAG groups have a lot of resources at hand.


The University of South Dakota has the 10% Society. They in the style of a gay-straight alliance and offer many resources. Check them out.


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Sunday, November 21, 2010

Gay North Dakota

Sorry for today's late post but I took part in Davey Wavey's day without the Internet. North Dakota today is your day.

Dakota OutRight is kind of a news/blog. But they also offer education to business' and work for some advocacy.


PFLAG has a chapter covering the central portion of the state. Lot's of good links and resources are available. The only negative is the latest info on the front page is dated 2009. So they may no longer be active. If someone knows otherwise please let me know.


The North Dakota Human Rights Coalition is a general advocacy group.


The university of North Dakota has a student group call the Ten percent Society. It is int he style of a gay-straight alliance. Education, support, and advocacy are their main goals.


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Saturday, November 20, 2010

Transgender Day of Remembrance

Today we remember all those we have lost from the Transgender community. Sadly there have been to many. Unlike the rest of us in the LGBT community they have the fewest numbers and may suffer some of the harshest struggles.

Many people may not understand Transgender and why they wish to do such drastic changes. I think that is where people get hung up. It's not about the change as it is about discovering who you are and trying to be that person. That is essentially what its about.

We all go through self discovery in life. Being LGBT only makes it harder. When we get to the T portion of that list it's probably the hardest. Trying to find yourself and struggling to find definition when the definition that is you is another sex. I admire all those that endure this test and do discover their place.

Violence and discrimination at our community is bad. For our Transgender brothers and sisters it can be downright harsh and deadly. I can only imagine the fear they face at times. It can't be easy to to have to reassign yourself and deal with such hatred. I'm sure that why so many try to live silent lives.

If you don't understand Transgender issues then please learn about them. We are all Human in this wonderful spectrum of life. The Transgender among us add brilliant hue to our rainbow. Please be there for them, support them, and remember them in our struggles. We are one and our issues are the same. Only the details change.

Noting I have not addressed Transgender resources enough myself. I hearby pledge to redouble my efforts to find them for all of you. Look for a special post this coming week with more links.

Transgender.org does a wonderful job listing ceremonies and telling us why we celebrate this day. Please check them out. A special thanks to Dan Heagney for making me aware of this link.


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Friday, November 19, 2010

Gay Rhode Island

Rhode Island our smallest state, the ocean state. Some beautiful coast and diverse lowlands. Today is your day.

PFLAG has a chapter for greater Providence. This site covers many of the basics and has links to the national web site. Like most PFLAG sites can offer you much information and support. Check them out.


Brown University has two LGBT resources of note. The first is their LGBTQ Resource Center. They offer education, support, mentoring, social events, and some advocacy. The second site is the Brown Queer Alliance. It is more a social and support group.



Marriage Equality Rhode Island is and advocacy organization.


The Providence Gay Men's Chorus is a great way to get involved to just go and enjoy. We all need to socialize and get out now and then. So check them out.


The University of Rhode Island has a gay-straight alliance. This is a Facebook site so there is not to much info on it. It seems focused toward social and support issues.


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Thursday, November 18, 2010

Gay Nevada

Nevada, the silver state. Entertainment to gambling and a primarily a desert environment. This state has a lot to offer. So today is your day.

Las Vegas Pride seeks to educate, offer support, and provide a social environment for the LGBT community to meet.


The Gay and Lesbian Community Center of Southern Nevada offers support, education, and social events to the LGBT community. A nice set of links and health resource round this site as as a very good one. Check it out.


Equality Nevada is a advocacy group. They also offer education and outreach programs.


The University of Nevada, Reno has The pride Collaborative. They offer support, education, social events, and some advocacy.


Reno Gay Pride is a social event offering support tot he LGBT community and education to the greater community.


Spectrum Northern Nevada primarily a social group supporting the GLBT-Q  community. They also strive to improve community relations and educate.


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Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Links of Love International: Gay Italy

From ancient times to today Italy have served as a rich cultural hub. Mild climate and varied terrain makes it an ideal place to live. So to my Italian readers today is for you.  Rispetto e dignità solo provengono da uguaglianza.

Torino Pride is a educational and support event for the LGBT community.


Arcigay is an advocacy group seeking to educate, support, and put forward LGBT rights.


Roma Pride is a wonderful social and support event. It fosters community and educates people we are not so different.


Polis Aperta is Italy's gay police network. They are an advocacy group and strive to create a safe environment for the LGBT community.


GAY.tv is a Italian language multimedia site. Check it out.


Arcilesbica is a national lesbian association. A bit much for my translator. Could someone please give me a review of it?


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Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Links of Love International V

For all my international viewers I have more links for you. I strive to find helpful resources for all those who view. If there is something you need please ask. I will do my best to help you find it. A note for tomorrow I will have a special Links of Love International. Check back to see it.

The AIDS Trust of Australia raises funds to prevent, treat, and find a cure for HIV/AIDS. (Australia)


The Feast Festival is held in Adelaide. They are mainly a social and support event for the gay and lesbian community of south Australia. Volunteer opportunities are available. (Australia)


Taiwan Pride is a growing LGBT social event. (Taiwan)


The Argentine Homosexual Community offers many links and resources. (Argentina)


La Fulana focus' on women, lesbian and bisexual. There seems to be many links and resources. If someone speaking Spanish could help with a better review please let me know. (Argentina)


COC Nederlad is a organization dedicated to LGBT advocacy, education, and support. They have some good links and resources. Check them out. This site is available in English, French, and Dutch. (Netherlands)


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Monday, November 15, 2010

Gay South Carolina

From the mountains to the low country South Carolina has many natural wonders to occupy you. City life to rural it's a well balanced state. So today is for you.

The Alliance For Full Acceptance (AFFA) advocates for LGBT equality in the state.


The Citadel Gay and Lesbian Alliance (CitidelGALA) offers support and advocacy for Citadel community. It is a gay-straight alliance.


South Carolina Equality advocates for LGBT equality.


The South Carolina Gay & Lesbian Business Guild serves to foster gay business and their allies.


We Are Family is based in Charleston. It supports the LGBTQ youth between the ages of 16 and 23.


The Charleston Area Transgender Support is more a link than a site. Since I find so few Transgender sources I am listing this. If someone could provide more info on them please let me know.


The College of Charleston Gay-Straight Alliance offers education and support.


The Medical University of South Carolina Gay-Straight Alliance offers education, support, social events, and some advocacy.


Charleston Pride seeks to educate and offer social events for the LGBT community. They also fund scholarships to teens.


The Clemson Gay-Straight Alliance offers education and support. Not a lot of online material but check them out.


PFLAG has a chapter in the Anderson/Clemson area. Like most PFLAG sites they offer a variety of resources.


The Harriet Hancock Community Center is in Columbia. It serves the LGBT community by offering education, support, social events, and some advocacy.


South Carolina Pride offers education, support, and advocacy.


PFLAG has a chapter in Greenville. A variety of resources are available.


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Sunday, November 14, 2010

Gay West Virginia

West Virginia, the heart of Appalachia. Vast natural wonders and a hard working people. Today is your day.

Fairness West Virginia is an advocacy organization. They strive to bring equality and safe environments for the  LGBT community at home, work, or school.


Rainbow Pride West Virginia seems to be a social and support group. They don't define themselves to much online. If anyone knows more about them please let me know.


Marshall University has a LGBTO Outreach Center. They offer education, support, and social programs. Volunteer opportunities are available.


West Virginia University BiGLT Mountaineers is a gay-straight alliance style group. They offer education, support, and social resources.


Shepard College Allies is a gay-straight alliance. They are a general support organization with some nice links.


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Saturday, November 13, 2010

Gay Iowa

Heartland of America. Iowa is one of the few states that allows gay marriage. So today is your day.

Iowa State University has a LGBTA Alliance. They offer coming out resources, health information, and support.


One Iowa is an advocacy and equality organization.


The Des Moines Gay Mens Chorus. Join in song or listen in appreciation. Either way have a day of fun. Check them out.


Iowa Safe Schools is LGBT group advocating safe environments for students and a good anti-bullying resource.


The Iowa Pride Network works with students to educate, support, advocate, and create safe school zones for LGBTQA youth. Materials for educators are available.


PFLAG North Iowa offers education, support, social events, and advocacy for the LGBT community.


A note of warning to people doing their own searches for Iowa resources. Several sites for this state triggered security warnings for my system. The ones listed here are fine but be careful in your searches.

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Friday, November 12, 2010

Gay Arizona

Today's focus is Arizona. Continuing my states series I hope to address the states that have no links so far first. So Arizona today is your day.

Bisbee Pride is mainly a social and support group.


PEAKS Pride is a volunteer organization dedicated to offering support and service projects. The cover Flagstaff and northern Arizona.


Flagstaff Pride offers education and social events.


Northern Arizona University PRISM offers education, support, social events, and advocacy. This is only a listing for the group. Let me know if it helps.


PFLAG Flagstaff is your standard PFLAG group. They offer education, support, advocacy and other general resources.


PFLAG Payson offers education, support, social events, and advocacy.


One Voice Community Center is located in Phoenix. They offer many social and support services, education, and a friendly environment. Volunteer opportunities are available.


GLSEN has a Phoenix chapter. If you are a student and need help check them out.


PFLAG Phoenix is probably one of the most organized and detailed PFLAG sites I have seen. Lot's of wonderful resources and links to help you. By all means check them out.


1 in 10 is a youth group serving the whole LGBTQ spectrum. They offer many resources and social resources to help. Check them out.


Sedona Pride offers various social events for the LGBT community. Go out meet new people and have fun.


PFLAG Tucson offer resources and links on education, support, and advocacy.


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Thursday, November 11, 2010

Gay Tennessee

Tennessee the true crossroads of America. From Appalachia to the Mississippi there is much to see and do. Country, Jazz, Blues, and rock music can fill your soul. So today's links are for you.

PFLAG in Nashville covers the central portion of the state. It is a basic site but like most PFLAG groups contact usually reveal much more help.


The University of Tennessee Spectrum is a gay and straight alliance.


PFLAG Chattanooga does not have their own site but here is a listing for them.


Tennessee Valley Pride is an organization devoted to support, education, and advocacy for the LGBT community.


The University of Tennessee at Knoxville has the Lambda Student Union. They offer education, support, social events, and some advocacy to students.


PFLAG Knoxville is another basic listing for the local PFLAG chapter. Still make contact they should be able to help you.


PFLAG Maryville is a more organized site with decent links and resources. Check them out.


The Memphis Gay and Lesbian Community center has many helpful resources and links


The Tennessee Equality Project seeks to educate and advocate for the LGBT community.


The Vanderbilt Lambda Association offers education, support, social events, and advocacy for students. It is a gay and straight alliance.


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Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Gay Texas

Today I focus on the state of Texas. Asher Browns tragic Bullying suicide was one of the motivations for this site. So Asher today is in your honor.

Equality Texas advocates for equality for all LGBT people.


The Resource Center Dallas is a community center with quite a few resources and social events for the LGBT community. Check them out and get involved.


Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Aggies is the campus organization for Texas A&M University. There is not much on their site but it is worth investigating to find support.


The Gender and Sexuality Center at the University of Texas at Austin has a nice site with links and helpful resources. Check them out.


OUTstanding Amarillo offer many resources for the LGBT community. Everything from education to social events. Volunteer opportunities are available.


Allgo is a statewide resource for queer people of color. The offer cultural, advocacy, and education resources.


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Tuesday, November 9, 2010

The Struggle of Being LGBT

Recently I had two experiences that disturbed me. The first was shopping in a store and seeing a child dancing about and his mother grabbed him and scolded him, to not act gay. In that moment I prayed he was not, because what a house to grow up in.

The second event was a friend telling me he could not support gay marriage. If it had been anyone else I probably would have dismissed it as their right to their beliefs but this was a friend that knew a good deal of my story in life. The more I sat and thought about it the more I felt rejected. I realized maybe I had insulated him from the realities of my situation.

I wanted to find some links to try and cover this issue that I am sure others have gone through but no one covered all the implications. So today you get a rare post from me. I will be the link to cover this.

To all the heterosexual people out there who do not understand what its like to be gay I implore you to listen. We are Human, we feel, and do things much as you do in life. When you define us by a sexual act you do insult us. We are more than that and deserve respect and dignity.

I'm not sure many people truly understand the struggle that is our lives. When you grow up in a society that has an unclear definition of your being it can make life so hard to figure yourself out. If we toss in the hate speech and condemnation it makes our early journey of self discovery very painful.

Those words may be in your vocabulary and you do not realize it. "That's so gay", "Don't be a fag", and "Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve" are some examples. Would you go up to a black man and use the N word? Would you approach a woman in a supermarket and tell her to go home because women should be barefoot and pregnant, in the kitchen? It's the same thing. Hate is hate.

I respect your right to disagree, hold different views and values, but in the process you have lost sight of something so important. That is the fact I am Human, I am a citizen, and I am being oppressed. Yes oppressed is the correct term. I know it may be hard to see but it is true.

Being Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or Transgender carries many issues in our society. Do you realize in most parts of our nation I can be evicted from an apartment for my very nature? I can be fired for the same thing. If I fall in love I can not marry. I can not receive benefits or any financial protections for myself or my partner. I can not adopt or if I do I am under scrutiny others do not have. I must always be aware of my surroundings because I never know who will be the one to carry hate into violence against me.

It's so hard to try and relay a life's worth of events to you in words but I shall try. Maybe you will see some of my perspective.

I can remember being a young child and hearing all the adults discourage me from doing anything that did not fit their view of being a boy. It was routine to hear don't be girly or don't do that. Can you imagine constantly hearing who you are is wrong? Do you know the self doubt that instills? If your a parent with a child that does not meet your views of their sex, please stop that. You hurt them and their development.

A child is going to be what they will be no matter what. You forcing a view upon them will only hurt and repress them in an unhealthy way. Worry about teaching your kids structure, values, and love. You are their examples in life. Do you really want them to grow up knowing hate and the feeling of being unloved?

Hate...I now it so well. I was with a friend one time, with a bunch of his friends. One of these people began spewing forth such hate and disgust for anything gay that he worked himself to a frenzy. Taking a bat and repeatedly hitting a tree as if to kill he continued his rage. Can you imagine the silent fear I had? Praying that you are acting straight enough?  Will he turn that rage upon me? Not being out yet I was spared possible injury that day, luckily.

Where does this hate and violence come from? When is it acceptable to hurt or kill?

I hear many cite religious text for their justification. Being a person of faith myself I have to ask are we reading the same book? If so can you please point out where it is acceptable to commit such horrible actions? More importantly are you casting judgements reserved to God alone? It is easy to fall into the trap of listening to others make misinterpretations and to quote lines out of their context. Please read and discover the message yourself. You might be surprised how it may differ from how many define it.

Gay marriage and all the rights associated with it. Many people disagree with this and that is fine. We should all have our beliefs in life and hold true to them. Where it is unacceptable is denying me and others our rights. It's not a redefinition of marriage or even a thing to be voted on. It is a fundamental civil right.

If you are a church, synagogue, mosque or temple and you choose not to perform such marriages that is your right under freedom of religion. If you are an officiant and you conscientiously object to performing such marriages that to is your right. It is not your right to deny me mine.

Is it so wrong for two people who are in love to want to marry? Is it wrong for them to want to have children? When did it become acceptable to discourage the creation of families and family values?

In a nation where 'all men are created equal', 'life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness' are expressed, and 'We the people' are given our rights it is disturbing that we must constantly deny someone those very rights.

If we were to look at our history and how the majority wanted to keep things in this nation it would be a very different place. Asians would be driven to live in underground cities relegated to menial labor. Blacks would still be enslaved. Women would not have the right to vote. Catholics, Mormons, Jews would be forced into ghettos or driven to rural areas because you were not Protestant.

So I ask you all why do you think so lightly of denying me of my rights? Why is it acceptable to believe you have the right to do so? To all those who have been through this in history why are you oppressing me now? Have you not learned that lesson yourself?

Maybe I have failed, so far, to impact you so let me tell you of what this dangerous attitude has wrought.

Ryan White, the first major public reaction to a child with AIDS. It didn't matter if he was gay or not AIDS was considered a gay disease. The fear, hate, and discrimination unleashed upon him was horrific. When only after international outrage you begin to change is very sad.

Matthew Sheppard a young man beaten so brutally and left naked tied to a fence in the middle of no where to die simply for being gay.

Children bullied so intensely and so long they believe suicide is their only option. So many have done so recently and those are only the ones you hear of. There are many more if you search.

A transgender woman denied care at a hospital and called 'it' simply for being.

A street gang brutally beats and sodomizes gay men because of who they are.

Gay families forced to fight for their rights to have children even though they are good stable homes. Yet abusers and neglected kids are ignored. 

The military's Don't Ask Don't Tell policy. Did you know when the courts suspended it there was not a single issue arise. No lack of unit cohesion or disturbance. The defence department's own survey found most soldiers don't care and don't find an issue with it. Most of our allies have openly gay soldiers. We all ready work with them. So why is it being so strongly fought if its not an issue?

These are just a select few of the issues out there. Consider what I have said and please realize the path we walk. Because when you begin that path and legislation permitting discrimination you can quickly turn into a Uganda where gays are listed in newspapers for execution. You are rounded up and arrested. Or worse yet you take Nazi Germany's path and send us to concentration camps and mass graves.

It's not about religion, it's not about you being forced to agree with something you don't. It's about democracy and fundamental rights for all. Be careful the minority you seek to limit for we all fall into some minority and who knows when someone will come to judge you.

Please end the hate and realize we are all Human. We all deserve dignity, respect, and equality.

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Monday, November 8, 2010


We all need role models in life. Like them or not celebrities provide a visible face to many who may not have them in there lives. So here are some well known celebrities speaking for us.

Ellen Degeneres actress, talk show host, talent judge...


Rosie O'donnell  actress, talk show host, broadway performer...


George Takei  actor best known as Sulu in the original Star Trek.


Ian McKellen well known actor best known for his work in Lord of the Rings.


Lady Gaga singer/songwriter


Elton John singer/songwriter


This is not a complete list but I wanted people to know LGBT role models are out there, creative, entertaining, and shining examples of success.

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Sunday, November 7, 2010

Links of Love International IV

For my international viewers I have some more resources for you. I hope they help.

Pink News is a news service covering news throughout the UK, Europe, and the world. (UK)


Gay Men's Health is a Scotland based Charity for gay and bisexual men. The seek to educate and improve health, social and mental well being,  and sexual knowledge.  (Scotland)


Gay Health Network focus' on sexual health and helping those with HIV. Good info and links are available. (Ireland)


Gay Jamaica Watch is a blog about LGBT life in Jamaica. Nicely written and informative. (Jamaica)


Doin' Costa Rica is a blog about life and travel in Costa Rica. Much of the LGBT content is on a separate blog in their links. Warning there may be adult content on that link. So be aware. (Costa Rica)


Today's last link is a list of support service's for Toronto. It is hosted by Gay Toronto. (Canada)


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Saturday, November 6, 2010


Today's links are not direct sites as normal. They are listings of national hotlines for people in crisis. Sometimes we need to talk now, surfing a web page is not fast enough. If you need help please reach out and ask.

The first list is hosted by Healthy Place. These are LGBT teen focused.


This list is hosted by The Massachusetts Coalition for Suicide Prevention. Not all of these numbers are LGBT specific. Still help is available.


The final site of the day is hosted by the government of Seattle. These links are also focused for LGBT teens.


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Friday, November 5, 2010


Keeping fit or just enjoying a spirited game can be an excellent way to improve life. Meet new people and get involved. If playing is not your choice be a fan and support your local teams. It's all about living life, having fun, and being healthy.

The Colorado Gay Ice Hockey Association.


Team Philadelphia is a group of sports teams in the Delaware Valley.


Team DC is a group of sports teams in the greater Washington DC area.


The North American Gay Amateur Athletic Alliance is the organization responsible for the Gay Softball World Series. Check them out they have links to member teams.


West Hollywood Aquatics have teams in swimming and water polo.


The San Franciso Fog is a rugby club.


Boston Pride Hockey is a nice Hockey site with links to other teams.


Metro Wrestling is a New York wrestling club.


Gay Orlando Sports is listing of Gay sports teams in central Florida. It is hosted on Gay Orlando's site.


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Thursday, November 4, 2010

Lift Your Voice in a Joyous Melody

To put our voice to song is an excellent way to express our feelings and emotions. It creates joy and allows us to share our experiences with others. Today I salute Chorus's. They lift us when we are low, make us smile, and voice things we may not be able to. Enjoy and participate if you can.

The Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles.


The San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus.


The New York Gay Men's Chorus.


The Chicago Gay Men's Chorus.


The Gay Men's chorus of Washington DC.


The Boston Gay Men's Chorus.


The Miami Gay Men's Chorus.


The Twin Cities gay Men's Chorus.


The Portland Gay Men's Chorus.


The Columbus Gay Men's Chorus.


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Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Support and Inspiration for a Better Life

Here are some more support and inspirational links. We all need help now and then and can support good organizations.

The Make it Better Project offers options to make life better. They have suggestions and links that are very helpful. Tips for getting more involved for adults and youth are available. 


It Gets Better - Broadway is a collection of videos from Broadway performers, for the It gets better project. They have some good stories and messages. Check them out.


Broadway Cares is an organization dedicated to to fundraising and grant making to fight HIV/AIDS.


Stop Bullying Now is a wonderful site dedicated to solving Bullying. Many vids, links, and suggestions cover this site. They have it divided for youth and for adults. Check them out.


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Tuesday, November 2, 2010

News, Blog Style

News can be informative. If you add in a blog style you get a wide range of opinion and interpretation. Here are some sites with unique views. Join in and interact.

Joe. My. God.  is a blog that offers everything in the news from the serious to pop culture. Good reviews and insights.


Towelroad is closer to traditional news with well written and supported information. Still they have a alluring style to them.


Queerty  is most definitly an opinion based service. They will love or hate you, little in between. The use of rapier wit or an old fashioned club will get their point across. All that aside they present the issues and certainly make you think.


Gayzette is a Denver, Colorado based news blog. It has charm and is well written. They are focused mainly on their local area but do cover larger stories.


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Monday, November 1, 2010

Youth and Support

Continuing my youth focus today are some more resources to help out. But do remember just because its focused for youth doesn't mean we all can't find some help on things from online information.

The Cool Page for Queer Teens is a nice and easy to understand guide offering suggestions on a variety of questions. It's a decent starting point to augment the other youth sites I have posted.


The National youth Advocacy Coalition is pretty much what it says. They advocate on LGBTQ youth issues. If your interested in getting involved try contacting them.


Out Youth Austin is a central Texas organization dedicated to helping youth ages 12 to 19 with many needs. All manner of support seems to be their focus.


The Sexual Minority Youth Assistance League is a whole life supporting organization for the Washington DC area. They focus on LGBTQ youth ages 13-21.


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