Sunday, February 28, 2016

Drowning in Good Intentions

Have you ever had people who know your problems and struggles, but only the surface knowledge, rush to help you, advise you, and fix you? They rush in forcing themselves into your life causing chaos, pain, and much much deeper damage than what you were dealing with?

I have known this struggle to often in life. It's not like finding someone interesting and hoping to get to know them or pursuing an attractive person. It's willful invasion of your life and forcing their views upon you. At times it may be lies and deceptions, and even darker things in the name of their "goal."

It can be hard sometimes to deal with this when you know these people want to help. But I think they forget a fundamental principal in life, we all have free will. This does not give you the right to force yours on another. It gives you the right to live your life.

So sometimes we get stuck with good people doing harm. Allow me to give you all some advice from one who has at times suffered greatly from such actions. Advise but know your limits. If someone is not receptive stop. Help if asked. Not everyone needs rescued. Some can heal all by themselves if you have faith in them, are there if they need you, and leave them be.

Now, yes it can hurt knowing someone you know or love is in such pain. It is hard to not try and repair their hearts and world. I'm not saying don't reach out. I am saying do so with the responsibility of knowing they may say no and not want you there. In that case stand back and just wait and be prepared if they do call upon you. Love, always love.

For the other side be clear. Let them know you may appreciate their efforts but do not want them. Also be aware you still have to fix you, even if its not them. If people can not respect your boundaries make the hard choice. True friends, loves, and families will give you faith and love. If they don't do that then maybe the foundations of your relationship needs examined. Either way you fix you. If you need help get it. Just make sure its what you choose and who you choose.

I can say I have made my errors in life to. It is hard to let go of those in your life and when you love them so much it can rip you asunder as much as them. It's not a magical answer, I know, but you have to just love them. If you can not give them what they need then just be there for them. No one is a crusade. No one is a cause. But at one time or another we are all lost, lonely, or hurting.

TLC (Tender Love and Care) is the best prescription. If this is your life to please breath, cry, pray, and reach out in love. If your observing be a light for them to find a way out of their darkness. Don't venture in unknowing.

I wish you all love. I wish you all peace.

Love is Never Wrong!

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