You know one of the greatest challenges many of us face in life is struggling to be ourselves or be free to do so. All to often in life some people or group wish to bring you into their fold or force you into it. They believe there is security, stability, and peace in one way, one rule, and one world.
Please don't believe those lies, deceptions, and illusions. Whether you are spiritual or not there is one truth. We as Humans are one people, but made up by the many. In short we have free will. What a wonderful thing to enjoy.
Don't get me wrong some abuse their will or make mistakes. Still the benefits of the individual far out way being bound to others. Now this does not mean we do not interact or tend to our fellows. It means every single one of us matters.
It's ok to think differently, act differently, and look differently. So many will tell you that you need to think less and follow more. That quite simply is not true. Yes we should be good people and be respectful of others but we are not cookies and no mold fits all of us, no matter how hard you try.
I've mentioned before we as a people are a fabric. Each of us and our life is a thread. Each thread is a different color, shape size, texture, even material. Some of us may even have prints or embellishments. That's ok.
Whether you are religious or not we all have free will, we all are different. The differences in us are not things that separate us. They are the things that bind us and allow us to grow. Can you imagine a world where someone didn't dare to publish science, poetry, or fiction? Can you imagine a world where people didn't change fashion, hair styles, or jewelry? Can you imagine a world where your job is assigned to you regardless of desire, education is only for those selected, or free speech is only accepted if it matches the demands of the group?
The power we have as a people is in our individuality. Our survival is dependent upon being different. All those wonderful differences create change, awareness, and wonderful growth. Art, science, fashion, music, enlightenment... are all things that came from one person daring to present a new view.
Think about that. Someone, somewhere, at some time set in motion something wonderful that now graces your life. Maybe you have become so accustomed to it you don't realize it but such things are all around you.
People are not our enemy. Thought is not our enemy. Expression is not our enemy. Diversity is not our enemy. We are one made up of many. Each and every soul matters.
The power of one is in you. What do you want, feel, think, or even desire? What brilliant beauty or mercy do you wish to share or enlighten the rest of us with? It's ok to disagree, not enjoy the same things, or even have the same vision.
All those differences and passions are what make us great. Yes they may divide but if we respect and honor each other then we have peace. Change is ok. Never fear change. It does not mean you have to, but it does mean you have to extend honor and respect to those who do think so.
Yes good things can and may be lost due to change. That is ok to. We as people struggle to understand and achieve. Maybe we lose sight of things for a while in our ambitions but we do eventually restore balance. Sometimes we have to get hit over the head to realize it but we do.
The power of one is the fuel of dreams. Will you ignite your soul and shine in the great void dazzling all who gaze upon you or sit silently in the dark wondering what lurks and preys upon you in the ebony cloud?
The choice is simple, be!
Love is Never Wrong!
Tuesday, December 29, 2015
Thursday, December 24, 2015
Journey of a Broken Heart
In my life I have known many who have touched my heart. Some have become special and others just friendly faces on my journey. Many have left me broken hearted or just plain broken. Still this hopeless romantic still dances to old memories.
It is good to reflect on the good times and good people. It's also good to forgive the bad ones. Most of my life I have been healing from one pain or another. I've hid away from thoughtless and cruel visitors. I've hung my head in sorrow. Still I walk my lonely path.
Somewhere out there is my fairy tale and dream life. So I walk on and dance to tunes old and new hoping one day this life will fulfill it's meaning. Far to long have I allowed the stop to dictate my journey.
The beautiful truth is the wonderful freedom of life is those who share your journey instead of you stoping to join anothers. Life must move forward and the people and places in it must move with you. Otherwise you are just a memory frozen in time.
I smile at my future though because the wonders of what may come are quite possibly the the infinity of love and beauty. My heart will always carry all its memories. Maybe old ones will return and maybe new ones as well.
What I do know is I will hold on to it all. This broken heart knows only love and healing and what wonderful things. Maybe one day all I have touched will know this wonderful thing as well. Maybe one day the world will embrace love and dance with me.
The journey of the broken heart is full of pain and love but what a journey. Embrace it all because if we can't love we are just a memory and what a waste of something so precious. Live your life, share it with others, be you and smile at the beautiful things and people. Take anothers hand and share your long walk.
Love!
Love is Never Wrong!
It is good to reflect on the good times and good people. It's also good to forgive the bad ones. Most of my life I have been healing from one pain or another. I've hid away from thoughtless and cruel visitors. I've hung my head in sorrow. Still I walk my lonely path.
Somewhere out there is my fairy tale and dream life. So I walk on and dance to tunes old and new hoping one day this life will fulfill it's meaning. Far to long have I allowed the stop to dictate my journey.
The beautiful truth is the wonderful freedom of life is those who share your journey instead of you stoping to join anothers. Life must move forward and the people and places in it must move with you. Otherwise you are just a memory frozen in time.
I smile at my future though because the wonders of what may come are quite possibly the the infinity of love and beauty. My heart will always carry all its memories. Maybe old ones will return and maybe new ones as well.
What I do know is I will hold on to it all. This broken heart knows only love and healing and what wonderful things. Maybe one day all I have touched will know this wonderful thing as well. Maybe one day the world will embrace love and dance with me.
The journey of the broken heart is full of pain and love but what a journey. Embrace it all because if we can't love we are just a memory and what a waste of something so precious. Live your life, share it with others, be you and smile at the beautiful things and people. Take anothers hand and share your long walk.
Love!
Love is Never Wrong!
Sunday, December 20, 2015
My Christmas Wish
I've shared so much with you all over time so I'll share my Christmas wish as well. Some of you may understand it others may not. All that being said it is mine and it is sincere.
This year I wished to see my family. I wished we could all find peace and common ground. I wished even if they can not accept me they would leave me alone. I also wished if they can not or will not accept peace that God remove them from my life forever.
I have some very good people in my family but good people make mistakes, don't understand, and magnify things beyond what they are. Then you have those who only have a stone in their hand. I have some who refuse to admit their wrongs and atone for so many horrible horrible things. In short very few of my family are true.
Everyone who has ever hurt me or treated me wrongly has been forgiven. If I have ever erred or hurt another I have walked my time in humility, pain, and humiliation. It is now a point in my life they either accept peace or leave.
There is only so much a soul can do to reach out and mend bonds. I've invested far to much time and if it does not bear fruit it is time for me to leave them behind. I don't worry though. Family is always there even if it is one of the heart. There are many good people in the world and they will be open to love, forgiveness, and life.
So in short my Christmas wish is for peace. We all deserve that. Hopefully they are in my life instead of removed from it. Maybe love will reign.
To all of you readers who know my path I am sorry we both walk it. But know family is not just blood relation it is all those special people you share your life with. You always have someone as long as you let them in.
I wish you all peace!
Love is Never Wrong!
This year I wished to see my family. I wished we could all find peace and common ground. I wished even if they can not accept me they would leave me alone. I also wished if they can not or will not accept peace that God remove them from my life forever.
I have some very good people in my family but good people make mistakes, don't understand, and magnify things beyond what they are. Then you have those who only have a stone in their hand. I have some who refuse to admit their wrongs and atone for so many horrible horrible things. In short very few of my family are true.
Everyone who has ever hurt me or treated me wrongly has been forgiven. If I have ever erred or hurt another I have walked my time in humility, pain, and humiliation. It is now a point in my life they either accept peace or leave.
There is only so much a soul can do to reach out and mend bonds. I've invested far to much time and if it does not bear fruit it is time for me to leave them behind. I don't worry though. Family is always there even if it is one of the heart. There are many good people in the world and they will be open to love, forgiveness, and life.
So in short my Christmas wish is for peace. We all deserve that. Hopefully they are in my life instead of removed from it. Maybe love will reign.
To all of you readers who know my path I am sorry we both walk it. But know family is not just blood relation it is all those special people you share your life with. You always have someone as long as you let them in.
I wish you all peace!
Love is Never Wrong!
Tuesday, December 15, 2015
The Cruel Cycle
Today I want to talk about what I call the Cruel Cycle. The Cruel Cycle is the cycle of abuse. In many ways it is part habit, rut, addiction, pain, and certainly humiliation. However there are so many other words and facets missing from that list.
When you have been in abuse it never just ends with the act perpetrated against you. It can be a wound to your very soul. It also may be a task to rebuild yourself once it is over. However the sad part is those who are abused usually suffer more than just a single act.
Like me there are some of us who have gone through years of pain and torture. If we add in the possibility of it occurring in childhood we magnify all those descriptions by a great magnitude. No child should ever be hurt.
Part of this horrible cycle is what comes after whatever has hurt you. The pain and humiliation can be so hard to allow you to express. You can shut down socially, you can be so overprotective you shut people out of becoming to close, you learn to lie and deflect to hide yourself, and you lose yourself.
I think the last one is the hardest. We don't always realize we have lost ourselves. All those protective acts erode the foundations of who we are. Sometimes people who undergo abuse for to long begin to take on elements of their abuser. They can be brainwashed like any victim.
This sadly to is part of the cycle. Many abusers are carrying on what may have happened to them. Some may be deluded. They see their acts as something else. They may even feel justified in their acts. Abuse is never right but we must acknowledge it and the acts that may have created it.
In this cruel cycle lives are ripped and torn. Lives become shattered or lost. Having lived in this cycle I can tell you there is only one solution to it. The cycle must end. Regardless of victim or abuser it must end.
Both sides need help. Both sides have to heal and recover. Abusers must come to terms with their act and learn to stop. Abused need to learn to forgive and rise again. This is no easy task. It may take a very long time to undo some damage and pains. But we must try.
We should also know in all honesty that you may never forget but like all wounds they can heal. They may leave scars and they may remind you causing sympathetic pain but they do heal. Our hearts can rise again. Our security and confidence can recover. Our love can be expressed and shared.
The cruel cycle is exactly that, cruel. It is rarely ever simple or one sided. There are no easy fixes and simple solutions. However love must be it's starting point. We must love ourselves and as hard as it may be we must love those who have hurt us. Because if we can not forgive we can not heal. If we can not forgive our pain will linger and fester slowly making us just as bad as those who hurt us.
Forgiveness does not mean you forget. If we truly forget we only open a path to repeat mistakes in our lives. Live and learn. Grow and thrive. Love and forgive. I know all to well some may see this as unfathomable but love is the path to redemption and recovery.
Whatever our pains or sins we must end the cycle. Let it be in love so that the next generation never has to know the pains we have survived. I think that is the best we can hope for. Creating a future free of the Cruel Cycle is the greatest love we can extend.
No one should live a life of pain. Let us live lives of love.
Love is Never Wrong!
When you have been in abuse it never just ends with the act perpetrated against you. It can be a wound to your very soul. It also may be a task to rebuild yourself once it is over. However the sad part is those who are abused usually suffer more than just a single act.
Like me there are some of us who have gone through years of pain and torture. If we add in the possibility of it occurring in childhood we magnify all those descriptions by a great magnitude. No child should ever be hurt.
Part of this horrible cycle is what comes after whatever has hurt you. The pain and humiliation can be so hard to allow you to express. You can shut down socially, you can be so overprotective you shut people out of becoming to close, you learn to lie and deflect to hide yourself, and you lose yourself.
I think the last one is the hardest. We don't always realize we have lost ourselves. All those protective acts erode the foundations of who we are. Sometimes people who undergo abuse for to long begin to take on elements of their abuser. They can be brainwashed like any victim.
This sadly to is part of the cycle. Many abusers are carrying on what may have happened to them. Some may be deluded. They see their acts as something else. They may even feel justified in their acts. Abuse is never right but we must acknowledge it and the acts that may have created it.
In this cruel cycle lives are ripped and torn. Lives become shattered or lost. Having lived in this cycle I can tell you there is only one solution to it. The cycle must end. Regardless of victim or abuser it must end.
Both sides need help. Both sides have to heal and recover. Abusers must come to terms with their act and learn to stop. Abused need to learn to forgive and rise again. This is no easy task. It may take a very long time to undo some damage and pains. But we must try.
We should also know in all honesty that you may never forget but like all wounds they can heal. They may leave scars and they may remind you causing sympathetic pain but they do heal. Our hearts can rise again. Our security and confidence can recover. Our love can be expressed and shared.
The cruel cycle is exactly that, cruel. It is rarely ever simple or one sided. There are no easy fixes and simple solutions. However love must be it's starting point. We must love ourselves and as hard as it may be we must love those who have hurt us. Because if we can not forgive we can not heal. If we can not forgive our pain will linger and fester slowly making us just as bad as those who hurt us.
Forgiveness does not mean you forget. If we truly forget we only open a path to repeat mistakes in our lives. Live and learn. Grow and thrive. Love and forgive. I know all to well some may see this as unfathomable but love is the path to redemption and recovery.
Whatever our pains or sins we must end the cycle. Let it be in love so that the next generation never has to know the pains we have survived. I think that is the best we can hope for. Creating a future free of the Cruel Cycle is the greatest love we can extend.
No one should live a life of pain. Let us live lives of love.
Love is Never Wrong!
Saturday, December 12, 2015
Life Lessons
In my life I have been a caretaker to many. I've been nurse and rehab for friends and family. I've seen horrible ravages of disease and accident. At times it has consumed my life and drained my soul. However I have never regret helping others. Life has taught me many lessons.
Whatever is before you in life realize you are not in a war or a battle. You are living. And by living that means whatever the challenge is embrace life. Embrace those around you. It is so easy to focus on what upends us. But we should focus on life.
Never surrender yourself to that you can not control. Life is yours. It may seem the last thing on your mind and you may hurt or worry but know life is yours. If you can not walk then use wheel chair or crutches. If you hurt watch a show or listen to your favorite music. Things that entertain and make you feel good can surprisingly lessen pain if by no other reason distraction.
If you can not stomach much then take a small bite, chew it, swirl it in your mouth but do not swallow. No one said you could not taste flavor. If you can not tend yourself then allow another. Its not a humiliation or horrible thing. It is an act of compassion and love. We should tend to each other in life.
Should life deal you to much at once and your mind and body is ever so heavy take a cleansing shower, open your window and smell sweet air and see the sunshine. It may not take things away but beauty and simplicity can allow us time to breathe. And sometimes time is all we need.
The pain dealt by those who hurt or are cruel can be crushing. However, know all things pass. You can remove people from your life. You can move. You can rise again. Dignity, honor, respect, and life are yours. Only you can allow another to take those from you. You may not see it in your moment but you are beautiful, loving, compassionate, and ever so worthy.
In the case we can not avoid certain things in life then realize they are not stopping your life they are merely part of it. If you struggle with cancer you do what you can to treat it but you live. If our acts to overcome are not for living then we have lost our way. Because even in trying to overcome we must honor the life we seek to live.
Embrace all that matters to you. Embrace all those who touch your heart. Embrace yourself because you matter. Live life, live a sweet life. Whatever is before you is only a facet not your definition. You can stop and focus on it but is it worth missing the rest?
All things pass, we move on, we leave hurtful things and people behind, and we love again. Life is not perfect and that is alright. Perfection my friends is in the soul that survives, lives, and loves. If we did not struggle beauty would not be as precious and life not as sweet.
I told you recently keep that innocent soul for what a wonderful way to see the world. It is also a wonderful way to live in the world. Be the swan that gently glides down the river. Life is beautiful, not just in the good times.
Go open your window, smell sweet air, cry at the beauty of the rainbow, laugh mightily, greet the world and others with love, and know peace is in you. Smile in the knowledge you are the one who writes in the book of your life. Events, people, places, things may enter your life but you write the story. Will it be a journal of love or pain?
Love is Never Wrong!
Whatever is before you in life realize you are not in a war or a battle. You are living. And by living that means whatever the challenge is embrace life. Embrace those around you. It is so easy to focus on what upends us. But we should focus on life.
Never surrender yourself to that you can not control. Life is yours. It may seem the last thing on your mind and you may hurt or worry but know life is yours. If you can not walk then use wheel chair or crutches. If you hurt watch a show or listen to your favorite music. Things that entertain and make you feel good can surprisingly lessen pain if by no other reason distraction.
If you can not stomach much then take a small bite, chew it, swirl it in your mouth but do not swallow. No one said you could not taste flavor. If you can not tend yourself then allow another. Its not a humiliation or horrible thing. It is an act of compassion and love. We should tend to each other in life.
Should life deal you to much at once and your mind and body is ever so heavy take a cleansing shower, open your window and smell sweet air and see the sunshine. It may not take things away but beauty and simplicity can allow us time to breathe. And sometimes time is all we need.
The pain dealt by those who hurt or are cruel can be crushing. However, know all things pass. You can remove people from your life. You can move. You can rise again. Dignity, honor, respect, and life are yours. Only you can allow another to take those from you. You may not see it in your moment but you are beautiful, loving, compassionate, and ever so worthy.
In the case we can not avoid certain things in life then realize they are not stopping your life they are merely part of it. If you struggle with cancer you do what you can to treat it but you live. If our acts to overcome are not for living then we have lost our way. Because even in trying to overcome we must honor the life we seek to live.
Embrace all that matters to you. Embrace all those who touch your heart. Embrace yourself because you matter. Live life, live a sweet life. Whatever is before you is only a facet not your definition. You can stop and focus on it but is it worth missing the rest?
All things pass, we move on, we leave hurtful things and people behind, and we love again. Life is not perfect and that is alright. Perfection my friends is in the soul that survives, lives, and loves. If we did not struggle beauty would not be as precious and life not as sweet.
I told you recently keep that innocent soul for what a wonderful way to see the world. It is also a wonderful way to live in the world. Be the swan that gently glides down the river. Life is beautiful, not just in the good times.
Go open your window, smell sweet air, cry at the beauty of the rainbow, laugh mightily, greet the world and others with love, and know peace is in you. Smile in the knowledge you are the one who writes in the book of your life. Events, people, places, things may enter your life but you write the story. Will it be a journal of love or pain?
Love is Never Wrong!
Friday, December 11, 2015
Thursday, December 10, 2015
Learning to Live
One of my greatest struggles in life has been learning to live. Everyone seems to have a different take on what it means to live and few overlap. I think that is because each of us are not quite the same. Our diversity creates unique paths for us all.
The one thing I have learned we all have in common is desire. Be that a lust for helping others or seeking adrenaline rushes. We each seek to feel excitement, love, adventure, pride... We want to feel good. We want to feel needed. Most especially we want to feel loved.
It is easy to forget to live sometimes, with the problems that face us. We may be oppressed, hurt, confused, or even lost. All those negative emotions that cloud our vision and create false shadows that haunt our lives.
Allow me to share one of the most beautiful and affirming times in my life. I've told you about my troubles with "M" now let me tell you about the wonders.
"M" was the first to truly make me feel alive. He gave me love, respect, and dignity. His time was mine at the slightest need. He encouraged me to try new things, go new places, and just live in the moment.
He was the first to make me feel comfortable just being me. Others may have taught me peace and trust but so did "M" There is nothing quite like having someone you are so comfortable with and trust that you never have to question or second guess. There is nothing like being someones focus in life.
The utter rarity that was "M" was that a look, a touch, and a presence could inspire and relay so much love and beauty. I never doubted him in the good times. To me it was as though an angel descended from the heavens caressed my soul and made me weep tears of joy.
Such love is rare. It is why I fought so intensely for him. I faithfully stayed with him because I touched that which I have touched with no other. I can't say how he felt but he lit a fire in my heart so strong the furthest star could see its beacon.
After my rough times with "M" he atoned for his mistakes. Just as I apologized if I had caused any thing to have hurt him. If I combined most of the men I have met in life they would not equal him. He reached out sought forgiveness and mended my heart. Now days it is so rare to find a man who not only accepts his success but also owns up to his mistakes and makes right.
For you see my friends that is part of living. We reach out touch, explore, learn and grow. Our hearts acknowledge darkness and light. We redeem ourselves and others. In that moment we transcend into something greater than ourselves. We touch the very fabric of the universe.
Whatever is the fire of your soul find it, light it, and gaze upon its wonder. Remember that sweet nectar that touches your lips and feed a hungry soul, for that is living. Only you know its recipe but when you create it it is a moment of eternity.
And to my dear love "M". I know your pride and your pain. I am sorry if revisiting old wounds may have caused you any pain. But you have to know, to me, love washed the hurt away long ago. Now it is the lesson for others to know and learn because even in our darkest times if we can help one soul avoid or overcome what we have walked then our discomfort is a fair price.
I may not walk with you anymore and time and space separates us. Our problems and struggles have come and gone. Know also I have only ever wanted you to be happy and know love. If someone else touches that heart of yours please explore it and live. Because if they can get just a sliver of what I received then they are blessed. I wish you peace and love. And maybe one day I'll meet my friend and love once more and we can share the many graces we created.
For all of you my dear readers touch that fire in your heart, whatever may spark it. Let its warmth engulf you and dazzle in its shimmer. It's ok because love does not burn. Only it's absence can do that.
Love is Never Wrong!
The one thing I have learned we all have in common is desire. Be that a lust for helping others or seeking adrenaline rushes. We each seek to feel excitement, love, adventure, pride... We want to feel good. We want to feel needed. Most especially we want to feel loved.
It is easy to forget to live sometimes, with the problems that face us. We may be oppressed, hurt, confused, or even lost. All those negative emotions that cloud our vision and create false shadows that haunt our lives.
Allow me to share one of the most beautiful and affirming times in my life. I've told you about my troubles with "M" now let me tell you about the wonders.
"M" was the first to truly make me feel alive. He gave me love, respect, and dignity. His time was mine at the slightest need. He encouraged me to try new things, go new places, and just live in the moment.
He was the first to make me feel comfortable just being me. Others may have taught me peace and trust but so did "M" There is nothing quite like having someone you are so comfortable with and trust that you never have to question or second guess. There is nothing like being someones focus in life.
The utter rarity that was "M" was that a look, a touch, and a presence could inspire and relay so much love and beauty. I never doubted him in the good times. To me it was as though an angel descended from the heavens caressed my soul and made me weep tears of joy.
Such love is rare. It is why I fought so intensely for him. I faithfully stayed with him because I touched that which I have touched with no other. I can't say how he felt but he lit a fire in my heart so strong the furthest star could see its beacon.
After my rough times with "M" he atoned for his mistakes. Just as I apologized if I had caused any thing to have hurt him. If I combined most of the men I have met in life they would not equal him. He reached out sought forgiveness and mended my heart. Now days it is so rare to find a man who not only accepts his success but also owns up to his mistakes and makes right.
For you see my friends that is part of living. We reach out touch, explore, learn and grow. Our hearts acknowledge darkness and light. We redeem ourselves and others. In that moment we transcend into something greater than ourselves. We touch the very fabric of the universe.
Whatever is the fire of your soul find it, light it, and gaze upon its wonder. Remember that sweet nectar that touches your lips and feed a hungry soul, for that is living. Only you know its recipe but when you create it it is a moment of eternity.
And to my dear love "M". I know your pride and your pain. I am sorry if revisiting old wounds may have caused you any pain. But you have to know, to me, love washed the hurt away long ago. Now it is the lesson for others to know and learn because even in our darkest times if we can help one soul avoid or overcome what we have walked then our discomfort is a fair price.
I may not walk with you anymore and time and space separates us. Our problems and struggles have come and gone. Know also I have only ever wanted you to be happy and know love. If someone else touches that heart of yours please explore it and live. Because if they can get just a sliver of what I received then they are blessed. I wish you peace and love. And maybe one day I'll meet my friend and love once more and we can share the many graces we created.
For all of you my dear readers touch that fire in your heart, whatever may spark it. Let its warmth engulf you and dazzle in its shimmer. It's ok because love does not burn. Only it's absence can do that.
Love is Never Wrong!
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